Friends in their 30s to 40s having midlife crisis

[jim889]

moi bbfa nose frens

 

[Keeptrucking]

Already lost 2 of my close buddies to suicide. 1 happened just last yr

Both din ask to borrow money thou, troubled by other issues

wah damn sian. sigh.

love or family issues?

[Keeptrucking]

my army group chat used to be really buzzing and noisy when we were in our 20s to early 30s. talking about everything and anything under the sun, everyone was always chatty. could go up to 200, 300 messages a day.

I noticed that it kept going quieter and quieter as we age. I guess everyone has had to deal with various issues - work, life, health, family...

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I dont rly have a grp except chat here.

Im close but also not so close to many at work and play

Think i will slowly fade away. Including at work

[Arctic]

wah damn sian. sigh.

love or family issues?

Family and money I guess, probably a little bit of love too

[Arctic]

my army group chat used to be really buzzing and noisy when we were in our 20s to early 30s. talking about everything and anything under the sun, everyone was always chatty. could go up to 200, 300 messages a day.

I noticed that it kept going quieter and quieter as we age. I guess everyone has had to deal with various issues - work, life, health, family...

Normal I guess. Even frens drift apart whatmore army mates

Near 60 members in my army groupchat but also damn quiet nowadays. 1 of them died in an accident just 2 yrs ago

Separately, lost 2 of my bmt mates to cancer. 1 quite a few yrs ago and another 1 just last yr

[No guessing game]

my army group chat used to be really buzzing and noisy when we were in our 20s to early 30s. talking about everything and anything under the sun, everyone was always chatty. could go up to 200, 300 messages a day.

I noticed that it kept going quieter and quieter as we age. I guess everyone has had to deal with various issues - work, life, health, family...

In life Friends come and go. I don't take this heavily now

[Keeptrucking]

honestly guys, it is important to have a couple of close friends to share issues with.

the problem with men is that we tend to internalise a lot of things. but our issues are real and we also need help, even it is just a listening ear.

that's why more men commit suicide than women.

just try to sound out, even on this forum.

[Arctic]

In life Friends come and go. I don't take this heavily now

Quality over quantity

It's a blessing to have even 1 buddy in one's lifetime, imo on par with finding a wife

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honestly guys, it is important to have a couple of close friends to share issues with.

the problem with men is that we tend to internalise a lot of things. but our issues are real and we also need help, even it is just a listening ear.

that's why more men commit suicide than women.

just try to sound out, even on this forum.

Last time i talked too much out to people until i seem like a girl. Now im trying to internalise everything.

Frankly speaking other pple also got problems. Those that dont also wont care abt u (mostly) and u cant be sure the person u are telling, are actually on your side at work or play.

On surface im ok with pple at work but ive become very distrusting even tho nth much happened yet for now. Right now this very moment im feeling messed up abt work and life but things still have to be done.

U cannot expect friends or colleagues to be there for u. Sometimes not even family tbh. But family is why most people manage to hang on and stay alive

[jim889]

Serve And F*ckoff.. 

moi dun contact any one anymore ..

cant even leemember the names of those in moi bmt
 

[jim889]

Last time i talked too much out to people until i seem like a girl. Now im trying to internalise everything.

Frankly speaking other pple also got problems. Those that dont also wont care abt u (mostly) and u cant be sure the person u are telling, are actually on your side at work or play.

On surface im ok with pple at work but ive become very distrusting even tho nth much happened yet for now. Right now this very moment im feeling messed up abt work and life but things still have to be done.

U cannot expect friends or colleagues to be there for u. Sometimes not even family tbh. But family is why most people manage to hang on and stay alive

ish the jhb hai chiu one rah..  gib chiu false hope
 

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im underweight but recently got sleeping and breathing issues also. maybe is eat too full.

but generally la, mood and happiness play a super big part on life. and whether u have family to cling on.

i dont know why being underweight im also starting to have belly (nv exercise) then my fucking arm is giving me tonnes of problems

and im facing a lot of issues at work.

im stuck in my role, responsibility and everything. like really stuck because im like a go-between but all sides not telling me the full story but hiding things from me and also giving reasons and excuses to not include me.

and then all expect me to know all requirements and translate to both sides when they nv give me full story.

then when succeed the biz side, IT side and management side all happy pat each others' back except mine

when shit happens, im the go-to person to be blamed

i want out of this place

oh look im whining again

[Arctic]

Last time i talked too much out to people until i seem like a girl. Now im trying to internalise everything.

Frankly speaking other pple also got problems. Those that dont also wont care abt u (mostly) and u cant be sure the person u are telling, are actually on your side at work or play.

On surface im ok with pple at work but ive become very distrusting even tho nth much happened yet for now. Right now this very moment im feeling messed up abt work and life but things still have to be done.

U cannot expect friends or colleagues to be there for u. Sometimes not even family tbh. But family is why most people manage to hang on and stay alive

You overshare to anyone everyone that's why

Those not close to you definitely won't be concern or bothered about you lah

And of cos sometimes even close frens and family will also wont' be there for you and disappoint you but no man is an island. Better to have someone you trust

That's why I say having a good buddy in life is akin to finding a wife. Just one is enough, anything more is a blessing

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ish the jhb hai chiu one rah..  gib chiu false hope
 

stop talking abt the jhb la, she is past tense. u very funny leh that was like >8 mths ago

it's not her

false hopes everyone gives everyone else incl at work what, right now im talking about work and other aspects of life.

can stop bringing her into the topic?