Friends in their 30s to 40s having midlife crisis

[Keeptrucking]

You guys have them?

Esp in the 40s when some of them lose their jobs, have to look after aging parents, kids... or at a crossroads of their career, not knowing to do the same job and risk being retrenched/skill redundant due to AI... or doing something else with lower pay?

[Arctic]

Mid 30s already feel the midlife crisis

Heng I'm bbfa. Nearly got married in the past

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Mid 30s already feel the midlife crisis

Heng I'm bbfa. Nearly got married in the past

Now do u feel u wish u got married?

U got siblings boh?

[Arctic]

However I see half of my peers dun really care. Maybe they think they will maintain status quo or do even better in future and bad stuff won't happen to them

I do also have at least a dozen of married frens who are DINKs, so at least any midlife crisis won't affect them as hard

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AI/IT is a fucking game changer. Now my side all talk abt all these data, ai, analytics, rpa, gen AI, bots blah blah and all the shits

[Arctic]

Now do u feel u wish u got married?

U got siblings boh?

Not going to lie, sometimes do feel lonely lah. Frens and money can't fill thst void

Yup have siblings and they have children so carry on the family line already settled haha

[Keeptrucking]

Mid 30s already feel the midlife crisis

Heng I'm bbfa. Nearly got married in the past

What sort of crisis you have?

I have a friend who realises that his skill is becoming redundant due to AI, and his folks suddenly have illnesses, so he is now facing pressure to have a fulltime job. He also has a young son.

Two other friends looking for jobs cos they have been doing the same job for many years and are stuck in it.

[Arctic]

What sort of crisis you have?

I have a friend who realises that his skill is becoming redundant due to AI, and his folks suddenly have illnesses, so he is now facing pressure to have a fulltime job. He also has a young son.

Two other friends looking for jobs cos they have been doing the same job for many years and are stuck in it.

Feel empty in life loh. Have to repeat daily grind for next few decades for duno who and duno what. Go travel, eat atas food, buy branded also meaningless

Misfortune can be fall anyone at anytime, so dun be too complacent.

Wah your fren is single parent and not working full time? That's tough

[Keeptrucking]

Feel empty in life loh. Have to repeat daily grind for next few decades for duno who and duno what. Go travel, eat atas food, buy branded also meaningless

Misfortune can be fall anyone at anytime, so dun be too complacent.

Wah your fren is single parent and not working full time? That's tough

Go dating apps then. Very common now.

He has a wife who is working. But he is suffering mentally also because he did not want fatherhood, and suddenly found himself with more responsibilties that he was not ready for. And the wife depends on him to look after the kid as he is better at it. 

He used to run a small firm doing website design and digital stuff, then closed it down and doing it freelance ever since.

Guess it was ok then but now that his parents are ill, the pressure hits him. 

[Arctic]

Go dating apps then. Very common now.

He has a wife who is working. But he is suffering mentally also because he did not want fatherhood, and suddenly found himself with more responsibilties that he was not ready for. And the wife depends on him to look after the kid as he is better at it. 

He used to run a small firm doing website design and digital stuff, then closed it down and doing it freelance ever since.

Guess it was ok then but now that his parents are ill, the pressure hits him. 

It's not just about finding a partner. I also gave up on finding significant other already

Oh man.... Sudden fatherhood. That's terrible. He will have to do his duty for the next 20+ yrs at least til his child grad from uni

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What sort of crisis you have?

I have a friend who realises that his skill is becoming redundant due to AI, and his folks suddenly have illnesses, so he is now facing pressure to have a fulltime job. He also has a young son.

Two other friends looking for jobs cos they have been doing the same job for many years and are stuck in it.

Am i right to say this equivalent to lie flat? The illusion of i have a job im a useful person compare to those lie flat.
But actually my skill never change at all been doing the same job for many years

[Keeptrucking]

It's not just about finding a partner. I also gave up on finding significant other already

Oh man.... Sudden fatherhood. That's terrible. He will have to do his duty for the next 20+ yrs at least til his child grad from uni

I know what you mean. Even finding a suitable partner depends a lot on luck, not easy at all. A lot more issues if get the wrong one.

I have a few friends who think that they married the wrong person.

[Arctic]

Am i right to say this equivalent to lie flat? The illusion of i have a job im a useful person compare to those lie flat.
But actually my skill never change at all been doing the same job for many years

More like quiet quitting

Isn't most ppl the same? Bogged down by family at 30s and later, even if bbfa, as one aged, definitely will be slower to pick up new stuff. However, capitalist society expect us to be better in all areas as one become older

[Keeptrucking]

Am i right to say this equivalent to lie flat? The illusion of i have a job im a useful person compare to those lie flat.
But actually my skill never change at all been doing the same job for many years

I guess in a way it is like lie flat? But I think both of them having pressures at work. Both not valued. And I think the boss of one of them is waiting for him to leave so that he can restructure the department. Thankfully he is working in some sort of quasi gov place and he has been there for many years so quite difficult to retrench him.

At the same time, he being there for what, close to a decade, has made him much less employable. He could not find other jobs even though he has applied.

The other one also looking for other jobs for a while cos I think he don't think he can stay very long in this job.

I guess for you it is ok if your current job is stable and your skillset is still valued for the next five ten years? 

[Arctic]

I know what you mean. Even finding a suitable partner depends a lot on luck, not easy at all. A lot more issues if get the wrong one.

I have a few friends who think that they married the wrong person.

Very common actually. I observed the same in my circle

Else just ppl watch couples on the streets especially those married ones. Many soulless couples