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Title: Only child
Post by: Arctic on Mar 10, 2024, 05:37 PM
Anyone is an only child here?
Do you think being an only child is good or bad especially in today's sg? I see quite a few frens with 1 child only... Probably due to cost of living, can't afford more
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: Magical Fingertip on Mar 10, 2024, 05:52 PM
Parents uplorry everything belongs to u that's why  find bf must find single child
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: default on Mar 10, 2024, 06:33 PM
me only child

very misunderstood by outside people... yes more attention but we also have to shoulder more

when young people will always say wah u very lucky then got all the love and 宠坏

tbh i dont see it as pros or cons and really hate it when people say that

if u only child and are good looking, smart, rich. then of course good la. but if not then everything also kena aim

but the thing is, even if u got many siblings but u are good looking and smart u also have everything in life what. and no need to face mockery and crap comments by relatives, neighbours etc
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: encourageSome1 on Mar 10, 2024, 06:55 PM
Quote from: default on Mar 10, 2024, 06:33 PMme only child

very misunderstood by outside people... yes more attention but we also have to shoulder more

when young people will always say wah u very lucky then got all the love and 宠坏

tbh i dont see it as pros or cons and really hate it when people say that

if u only child and are good looking, smart, rich. then of course good la. but if not then everything also kena aim

but the thing is, even if u got many siblings but u are good looking and smart u also have everything in life what. and no need to face mockery and crap comments by relatives, neighbours etc
Now mostly my frens a lot no child or only child and few hv two kids

So now kids get to uds more

When I was a kid , most of us r two kids or three kids family ...
So maybe we curious abt only child friends so we might ask how are things for u.. hey we didn't mean it if we sound weird or stupid or wrongly sympathetic or insensitive

For us more ppl more chance to fight n learn how to lose nicely is good training since young .. since my bro come to 争🍚with me
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: Arctic on Mar 10, 2024, 06:58 PM
Quote from: default on Mar 10, 2024, 06:33 PMme only child

very misunderstood by outside people... yes more attention but we also have to shoulder more

when young people will always say wah u very lucky then got all the love and 宠坏

tbh i dont see it as pros or cons and really hate it when people say that

if u only child and are good looking, smart, rich. then of course good la. but if not then everything also kena aim

but the thing is, even if u got many siblings but u are good looking and smart u also have everything in life what. and no need to face mockery and crap comments by relatives, neighbours etc

Thanks for sharing. I have siblings and all of them are better than me in many aspects but I have no grivences about it.

I just observed nowadays many couples have only 1 child. Maybe due to cost of living or whatever reasons but I somehow feel the child may be lonely and have to shoulder the responsibility of taking care of the parents alone in future. Also, I feel that many parents simply have 1 child just to have a "complete family", to be answerable to society and their own parents and in-laws that's all
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: Keeptrucking on Mar 10, 2024, 07:20 PM
Single child most siong part is having to look after the parents alone.

Can be very stressful if you hv your own work and life issues.
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: default on Mar 10, 2024, 07:32 PM
Quote from: Keeptrucking on Mar 10, 2024, 07:20 PMSingle child most siong part is having to look after the parents alone.

Can be very stressful if you hv your own work and life issues.

ya like me... lost mum in 2018 all of a sudden. i machiam kena hit by lightning. all of a sudden all decisions on me coz father is demented

then have to bear with all the shits and comments by people around you, the good bad and the ugly and fake people, people who say nice things in front of u but u know what they say behind when u send ur dad to nursing home
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: encourageSome1 on Mar 10, 2024, 07:48 PM
Quote from: default on Mar 10, 2024, 07:32 PMya like me... lost mum in 2018 all of a sudden. i machiam kena hit by lightning. all of a sudden all decisions on me coz father is demented

then have to bear with all the shits and comments by people around you, the good bad and the ugly and fake people, people who say nice things in front of u but u know what they say behind when u send ur dad to nursing home
Don't need over care what others r thinking or saying .. it's you living yr life .. not other ppl walking in yr skin nor  yr shoes

how good or bad
How bearable or not e situation
How tough or easy it's not for other ppl but for u to experience and judge for yrself

  https://youtu.be/0hCipHdn3yw?feature=shared
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: daryl76 on Mar 10, 2024, 07:55 PM
sometimes dun even need to be only child to face the problems an only chile faces... lol

got sibling like no sibling
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: encourageSome1 on Mar 10, 2024, 08:02 PM
Quote from: default on Mar 10, 2024, 07:32 PMya like me... lost mum in 2018 all of a sudden. i machiam kena hit by lightning. all of a sudden all decisions on me coz father is demented

then have to bear with all the shits and comments by people around you, the good bad and the ugly and fake people, people who say nice things in front of u but u know what they say behind when u send ur dad to nursing home

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Title: Re: Only child
Post by: Keeptrucking on Mar 10, 2024, 08:38 PM
Quote from: default on Mar 10, 2024, 07:32 PMya like me... lost mum in 2018 all of a sudden. i machiam kena hit by lightning. all of a sudden all decisions on me coz father is demented

then have to bear with all the shits and comments by people around you, the good bad and the ugly and fake people, people who say nice things in front of u but u know what they say behind when u send ur dad to nursing home

understand. it must be tough. esp if family is not well-to-do. must have a very strong support group. but yeah, don't care what they say. you do your part to your best. that's what matters.

no one else understands what you are going through.
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: nyvrem on Mar 10, 2024, 08:45 PM
being only child is damn jialat.

my grandparents had 5 children, 1 uplorry young, 3 run road overseas because breakdown in relationship. since my grandparents were in their 50s until they uplorry in their 90s, my mum solo look after them.

towards the end of their life, my grandmother had kidney failure, need to go in and out of hospital, dialysis every 2-3 days. my grandfather had dementia. my mum and dad was still working full time and looking after them. end up i also had to chip in to prevent everyone from burning out.

if you only child and not married, it's going to be really really tough.

Title: Re: Only child
Post by: default on Mar 11, 2024, 12:45 AM
but honestly got many kids also no point

end up u dont see any will take care of them, only that 1 who feels duty bound or boh bian

otherwise none of them feel close to this parent and just dump them somewhr
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: Bardiel on Mar 11, 2024, 07:47 AM
Quote from: Nevereatrice on Mar 10, 2024, 05:52 PMParents uplorry everything belongs to u that's why  find bf must find single child

wo wo wo hold it there.

i am the only child. parent divorced

my useless father retired at 67 with let say 10k cash and 0 cpf. don wan work yet wan bills paid for him.

not a good thing
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: Philipkee on Mar 11, 2024, 07:48 AM
Quote from: Keeptrucking on Mar 10, 2024, 07:20 PMSingle child most siong part is having to look after the parents alone.

Can be very stressful if you hv your own work and life issues.
Middle child also siong

Title: Re: Only child
Post by: daryl76 on Mar 11, 2024, 10:36 AM
Quote from: default on Mar 11, 2024, 12:45 AMbut honestly got many kids also no point

end up u dont see any will take care of them, only that 1 who feels duty bound or boh bian

otherwise none of them feel close to this parent and just dump them somewhr

thats why ppl say 家家有本难念的经
got kids got problems, no kids also got problems

is really see upbringing and kids characters... got siblings like no siblings, worse than being the only child


Title: Re: Only child
Post by: Arctic on Mar 11, 2024, 11:43 AM
Quote from: daryl76 on Mar 11, 2024, 10:36 AMthats why ppl say 家家有本难念的经
got kids got problems, no kids also got problems

is really see upbringing and kids characters... got siblings like no siblings, worse than being the only child




True also. I always see ppl post photos of mother's day etc on social media. Then rest of the year leh??? Din visit parents??
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: daryl76 on Mar 11, 2024, 11:55 AM
Quote from: peaceheart on Mar 11, 2024, 11:43 AMTrue also. I always see ppl post photos of mother's day etc on social media. Then rest of the year leh??? Din visit parents??

those are disgusting af seriously... i am a believer of everyday can be what u wan it to be, not a specific one


Title: Re: Only child
Post by: ABCDFinanceGuy on Mar 13, 2024, 07:14 PM
Quote from: peaceheart on Mar 10, 2024, 06:58 PMThanks for sharing. I have siblings and all of them are better than me in many aspects but I have no grivences about it.

I just observed nowadays many couples have only 1 child. Maybe due to cost of living or whatever reasons but I somehow feel the child may be lonely and have to shoulder the responsibility of taking care of the parents alone in future. Also, I feel that many parents simply have 1 child just to have a "complete family", to be answerable to society and their own parents and in-laws that's all


I know how it feels to get overshadowed by your siblings.

It's worse if your parents start comparing.
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: encourageSome1 on Mar 13, 2024, 07:20 PM
Quote from: peaceheart on Mar 11, 2024, 11:43 AMTrue also. I always see ppl post photos of mother's day etc on social media. Then rest of the year leh??? Din visit parents??

365 also love but 1 day she don't mind we splurge ... One day she likes to anticipate something different is going to happen because of her ..
Even just a angpow or a hug or I love you or a special dish also she don't mind ... Shebeg me don't make cards or craft else she v hard to throw them away after they grow dusty... I secretly throw some away and she sometimes scold me if she remembers
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: encourageSome1 on Mar 13, 2024, 07:22 PM
Quote from: daryl76 on Mar 11, 2024, 11:55 AMthose are disgusting af seriously... i am a believer of everyday can be what u wan it to be, not a specific one




My mom thinks just choose any day , don't choose actual festive cos of crowd and cos she don't need yearly reminders in case one of e kid busy or in case of us us forgets .. if it s a normal day surprise she won't remb then it's all good
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: Arctic on Mar 13, 2024, 07:39 PM
Quote from: ABCDFinanceGuy on Mar 13, 2024, 07:14 PMI know how it feels to get overshadowed by your siblings.

It's worse if your parents start comparing.

They do compare but in a nice way, saying I should look up to them as role models. Have to admit I do feel inferior in the past but overtime I accept that I'm indeed not as good as them in studies and my parents also nv pressured me further. They were from RI and vs then went on to nus haha

Throughout lower primary school I was known to the teachers as their younger bro. But upper primary onwards I somehow managed to shake off the relation by my own achievements
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: kiryu86 on Mar 13, 2024, 07:56 PM
i also only child, no siblings, young time all these old cb keep saying u good life, everything also get eberything u wan also will get, true fact is is ur parents rich enough to give u everything u wan? unfortunately no, people from last time never give birth more than 1 is very uncommon, and it happens because they know they cannot afford it with their salary.

thus most only child in common family is realy poor one, and i am one of them

now my parents old liao, they take turn to fall sick and go into energency, i had to take so much urgent leave to help, if i dun, who will? who can i count on? cannot say dun care also, ask them go doctor or hospital themselves,  later kena struck by lightning and people will say u unfillal bastard.

no one will understand our pain.
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: daryl76 on Mar 13, 2024, 08:07 PM
Quote from: EncourageSome1 on Mar 13, 2024, 07:22 PMMy mom thinks just choose any day , don't choose actual festive cos of crowd and cos she don't need yearly reminders in case one of e kid busy or in case of us us forgets .. if it s a normal day surprise she won't remb then it's all good

i used to jio my parents when they still around to jiak whenever i can and not on any specific dates... even reunion dinner also sometimes one day before CNY, sometimes one week before etc

i think i spent more time with my dad in his last months than i ever had previously... almost everyday will go jio him lim kopi or have breakfast...
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: default on Mar 13, 2024, 08:07 PM
i actually dont think having many siblings or only child is good or bad. it rly depends on the situation and parents, incl how good they are and no matter what financially also plays a role

my parents are nice and good people and also took care of me a lot. my dad not much temper one. mum even more mellow. i rly gave them a lot of problems as a kid, getting into trouble way more often than most people, i bet more than most people here

and my temper is quite bad and i got many bad or different traits from parents. my parents dont rly compare, or do it in front of me too often. sure they do compare but i think less than the avg parent. but im very competitive and unhappy. but my dad not competitive and very happy go lucky type... this trait is quite impt i nv inherit from him

and my parents they dont dare to go against authority or speak up, esp my dad.

ok a bit deviate from topic. the thing is i just dont like how people say only child so lucky or we as only child say we very unlucky lor. there's nth u can do abt it. just that as a only child, some people will find u hard to interact with

but im quite good at talking and sociable and in kindergarten my teacher say i damn talkative maybe coz i no siblings. i dont think that is true also


so many comperes, speakers, comedians or whatever also have many siblings. it's really quite unfair to the child or parents to anyhow say and generalize

u can have 3 kids 1 can be smart 1 can be stupid the other can be athletic and some can suck at studying some good at sports or singing whatever

a lot of good looking parents or talented people their kids also turn out like shit or way less talented

a lot of teachers in the past full of shit. but a lot of people study until damn high also damn full of shit anyway
Title: Re: Only child
Post by: Arctic on Mar 15, 2024, 08:56 AM
Saw 2 similar threads in edmw today echoing what I have said....
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