Only child

[daryl76]

but honestly got many kids also no point

end up u dont see any will take care of them, only that 1 who feels duty bound or boh bian

otherwise none of them feel close to this parent and just dump them somewhr

thats why ppl say 家家有本难念的经
got kids got problems, no kids also got problems

is really see upbringing and kids characters... got siblings like no siblings, worse than being the only child

[Arctic]

thats why ppl say 家家有本难念的经
got kids got problems, no kids also got problems

is really see upbringing and kids characters... got siblings like no siblings, worse than being the only child

True also. I always see ppl post photos of mother's day etc on social media. Then rest of the year leh??? Din visit parents??

[daryl76]

True also. I always see ppl post photos of mother's day etc on social media. Then rest of the year leh??? Din visit parents??

those are disgusting af seriously... i am a believer of everyday can be what u wan it to be, not a specific one

[ABCDFinanceGuy]

Thanks for sharing. I have siblings and all of them are better than me in many aspects but I have no grivences about it.

I just observed nowadays many couples have only 1 child. Maybe due to cost of living or whatever reasons but I somehow feel the child may be lonely and have to shoulder the responsibility of taking care of the parents alone in future. Also, I feel that many parents simply have 1 child just to have a "complete family", to be answerable to society and their own parents and in-laws that's all

I know how it feels to get overshadowed by your siblings.

It's worse if your parents start comparing.

[encourageSome1]

True also. I always see ppl post photos of mother's day etc on social media. Then rest of the year leh??? Din visit parents??

365 also love but 1 day she don't mind we splurge ... One day she likes to anticipate something different is going to happen because of her ..
Even just a angpow or a hug or I love you or a special dish also she don't mind ... Shebeg me don't make cards or craft else she v hard to throw them away after they grow dusty... I secretly throw some away and she sometimes scold me if she remembers

[encourageSome1]

those are disgusting af seriously... i am a believer of everyday can be what u wan it to be, not a specific one

My mom thinks just choose any day , don't choose actual festive cos of crowd and cos she don't need yearly reminders in case one of e kid busy or in case of us us forgets .. if it s a normal day surprise she won't remb then it's all good

[Arctic]

I know how it feels to get overshadowed by your siblings.

It's worse if your parents start comparing.

They do compare but in a nice way, saying I should look up to them as role models. Have to admit I do feel inferior in the past but overtime I accept that I'm indeed not as good as them in studies and my parents also nv pressured me further. They were from RI and vs then went on to nus haha

Throughout lower primary school I was known to the teachers as their younger bro. But upper primary onwards I somehow managed to shake off the relation by my own achievements

[kiryu86]

i also only child, no siblings, young time all these old cb keep saying u good life, everything also get eberything u wan also will get, true fact is is ur parents rich enough to give u everything u wan? unfortunately no, people from last time never give birth more than 1 is very uncommon, and it happens because they know they cannot afford it with their salary.

thus most only child in common family is realy poor one, and i am one of them

now my parents old liao, they take turn to fall sick and go into energency, i had to take so much urgent leave to help, if i dun, who will? who can i count on? cannot say dun care also, ask them go doctor or hospital themselves,  later kena struck by lightning and people will say u unfillal bastard.

no one will understand our pain.

[daryl76]

My mom thinks just choose any day , don't choose actual festive cos of crowd and cos she don't need yearly reminders in case one of e kid busy or in case of us us forgets .. if it s a normal day surprise she won't remb then it's all good

i used to jio my parents when they still around to jiak whenever i can and not on any specific dates... even reunion dinner also sometimes one day before CNY, sometimes one week before etc

i think i spent more time with my dad in his last months than i ever had previously... almost everyday will go jio him lim kopi or have breakfast...

[default]

i actually dont think having many siblings or only child is good or bad. it rly depends on the situation and parents, incl how good they are and no matter what financially also plays a role

my parents are nice and good people and also took care of me a lot. my dad not much temper one. mum even more mellow. i rly gave them a lot of problems as a kid, getting into trouble way more often than most people, i bet more than most people here

and my temper is quite bad and i got many bad or different traits from parents. my parents dont rly compare, or do it in front of me too often. sure they do compare but i think less than the avg parent. but im very competitive and unhappy. but my dad not competitive and very happy go lucky type... this trait is quite impt i nv inherit from him

and my parents they dont dare to go against authority or speak up, esp my dad.

ok a bit deviate from topic. the thing is i just dont like how people say only child so lucky or we as only child say we very unlucky lor. there's nth u can do abt it. just that as a only child, some people will find u hard to interact with

but im quite good at talking and sociable and in kindergarten my teacher say i damn talkative maybe coz i no siblings. i dont think that is true also


so many comperes, speakers, comedians or whatever also have many siblings. it's really quite unfair to the child or parents to anyhow say and generalize

u can have 3 kids 1 can be smart 1 can be stupid the other can be athletic and some can suck at studying some good at sports or singing whatever

a lot of good looking parents or talented people their kids also turn out like shit or way less talented

a lot of teachers in the past full of shit. but a lot of people study until damn high also damn full of shit anyway

[Arctic]

Saw 2 similar threads in edmw today echoing what I have said....