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Chanced upon a random article today ... bbfa irrelevant can skip
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I May Have Witnessed the Beginning of an Affair—Joshua Roger's


The other day, I was flying out of Memphis when an attractive-looking man and woman behind me struck up a conversation that I couldn't help but hear. At first, they talked about where they were from, their work, and politics. But then things got more personal.

They both started talking about their marriages, her desire for children, and the way she and her husband were struggling with conception. That's a tender topic as it is, but something about the man's willingness to ask probing questions made me feel uneasy.

I was relieved when the flight was nearing the end and the man changed the subject and asked, "So can you recommend any good restaurants in Memphis? I have to come here for work occasionally, and I'm always looking for good places to eat."

The woman started naming off restaurants, and after she had given her recommendations, he said, "Those sound like great options. You should join me for lunch sometime."

That seemed awfully forward to me. They had only talked for a couple of hours, so I felt for sure she would come up with an excuse to beg off. Instead, she immediately agreed to meet and gave him her contact information.

"I'll be in touch," he said as they bid goodbye.

I couldn't help but wonder if I had just witnessed the beginning of an affair. Maybe so, maybe not; but I do believe I witnessed two married people put themselves in a position to have one. There were three key elements that increased the chances:

1. They were isolated. These two were 30,000 feet in the air, far away from their spouses and friends who might ask, "Why in the world are you exchanging contact information with someone of the opposite sex and planning a lunch date?" One of the easiest ways to set ourselves up for falling into any kind of sexual sin is to isolate ourselves from the people who will be affected by our choices.

2. They lowered their guards. This woman was probably in a world of hurt over the anguish that comes with infertility. Suddenly, she's sitting next to an attractive guy who's curious, who appears to care, and it understandably felt appealing to engage in self-disclosure. The problem is that in doing so, she overlooked the fact that you don't need physical contact to have an intimate moment with someone else.

3. They made plans to spend time together. The pair made a plan to spend time alone, and they had no purpose for doing so other than getting to know each other better. Spending time with someone of the opposite sex puts us in a position to get our emotional or physical needs met by someone other than our spouses.

Again, I'm not saying this couple had an affair. All I know is, over the course of just two hours, they made themselves more vulnerable to it. And as married couples, we've got to be more vigilant than that. We've got to "[c]atch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love" Song of Solomon 2:15 (NLT).

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Temptation is everywhere if one allows it .. it will fester

What are your thoughts?

it is actually a lot more common than you think. even your seemingly goody two shoes friends might be having an affair.

in singapore, men get exposed to KTVs, massage parlours and prostitution during NS. Some continue to do it even after marriage, some will go to dating apps.

I suspect that 3 or 4 out of 10 people have cheated in some ways in their marriage. Be it even very ocassionally going to ktv, massage parlours or geylang.

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it is actually a lot more common than you think. even your seemingly goody two shoes friends might be having an affair.

in singapore, men get exposed to KTVs, massage parlours and prostitution during NS. Some continue to do it even after marriage, some will go to dating apps.

I suspect that 3 or 4 out of 10 people have cheated in some ways in their marriage. Be it even very ocassionally going to ktv, massage parlours or geylang.

I have only 3-10 friends whom
I know well enuf whether they hv affairs or not .. those ppl I m sure they don't. But has any of them ever contemplated breaking up w their sig other .. I m sure half of them have contemplated

Rest of 99 ppl around me they hv affairs or not I don't hv any speculation... I guess what s the infidelity rate for sg is generally representative of those rest of humans around me ..

Yea I hv heard of those stuff that happens in ns ...

Hmm my hunch abt the so called goody two shoes ppl whom I know .. their main difference with other non goody shoes are their perception and awareness of what constitutes infidelity and what they perceive as decent & whether or not they tk action to live right before their spouse and before God

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it is actually a lot more common than you think. even your seemingly goody two shoes friends might be having an affair.

in singapore, men get exposed to KTVs, massage parlours and prostitution during NS. Some continue to do it even after marriage, some will go to dating apps.

I suspect that 3 or 4 out of 10 people have cheated in some ways in their marriage. Be it even very ocassionally going to ktv, massage parlours or geylang.

I'm half guilty of that. Was attached but still go out with younger female colic haha. Physically nothing happened thou but kind of know she's into me and she was quite touchy

I believe girls also same. They can be attached but still "cheat" on their other half. I'm not condoning such things but it's common, such things happen

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I have only 3-10 friends whom
I know well enuf whether they hv affairs or not .. those ppl I m sure they don't. But has any of them ever contemplated breaking up w their sig other .. I m sure half of them have contemplated

Rest of 99 ppl around me they hv affairs or not I don't hv any speculation... I guess what s the infidelity rate for sg is generally representative of those rest of humans around me ..

Yea I hv heard of those stuff that happens in ns ...

Hmm my hunch abt the so called goody two shoes ppl whom I know .. their main difference with other non goody shoes are their perception and awareness of what constitutes infidelity and what they perceive as decent & whether or not they tk action to live right before their spouse and before God

Nobody will go ard and admit or spread such things lah but it's common

And normally it's the goody two shoes who will cheat

[No guessing game]

社会上没有一个比学校更好的女孩子，但社会上都是比学校更好的男人！！！！ 我们分手吧！！！！！

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社会上没有一个比学校更好的女孩子，但社会上都是比学校更好的男人！！！！ 

What's the meaning of this ? How does it came about

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Today lkk go for evening exercise.. saw two foreginer men cycling back.

Nv took additional notice of them . But when lkk about to walk back lkk found they both stopped to help a 13-15 yo boy with his bicycle 🚲 which has dropped bike chains .. that was really kind and sweet and they didn't have to , but they chose to. They wore bright red shirt and purple shirt and red shirt man got curly hair . Lkk want to clap for them but I think they ll chua tiok so lkk just smile n faster go away .

One local guy nv help but stood there observing them .. I think he like me ... thinking of want to help but didn't know how so just stop to watch n learn by e way