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Title: DINK Couples
Post by: Arctic on Apr 11, 2024, 09:13 AM
I know of at least a dozen of such couples. But on the other end, I also know quite a few couples who are first time parents in their late 30s or early 40s

Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: Imboredtodeath on Apr 11, 2024, 09:41 AM
now is quite common, many upfront in 20s also say so liao....... esp from the girls

tv/youtube so many like to interview them esp about HDB

if cannot have is another thing
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: Arctic on Apr 11, 2024, 09:44 AM
Quote from: default on Apr 11, 2024, 09:41 AMnow is quite common, many upfront in 20s also say so liao....... esp from the girls

tv/youtube so many like to interview them esp about HDB

if cannot have is another thing

From what I observed hor, normally girls will change their mind after marriage once their maternal instinct kicks in. It's the guys who prefer to be childless
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: daryl76 on Apr 11, 2024, 12:00 PM
a hen that dun wanna lay eggs is just good for the table

ya i know quite a few also, cb every couple of weeks go short getaway, every few months go long holidays
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: nyvrem on Apr 11, 2024, 01:53 PM
my close friend is a DINK. she's a VP at a bank, husband also quite high flyer. both in late 30s. live in 2 bedroom FH condo along east coast area.

every 3-4 months can see them go holiday one. life jin shiok.

in the other hand, we got another friend in same group, late 30s and just had a 2nd child. struggling to handle 2 kids.

its just life.

 :crazy:  :crazy:  :crazy:
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: Suntan on Apr 11, 2024, 02:02 PM
If wanna bring a kid or 2 out, make sure Chiu can give them headstart w a house each since our country is giving them debt of 30 yrs loan.
Better to give 2 each so stay in one, rental income & no stress to find job.
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: Arctic on Apr 11, 2024, 03:26 PM
Quote from: Suntan on Apr 11, 2024, 02:02 PMIf wanna bring a kid or 2 out, make sure Chiu can give them headstart w a house each since our country is giving them debt of 30 yrs loan.
Better to give 2 each so stay in one, rental income & no stress to find job.

True and have children early. Late 30s early 40s no physical and mental strength liao

I know of a couple who did that, they have 2 children. But they also own 2 properties so 1 child each

Mark Lee also did the same thing. Already bought house for his children
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: jim889 on Apr 11, 2024, 07:54 PM
Quote from: peaceheart on Apr 11, 2024, 03:26 PMTrue and have children early. Late 30s early 40s no physical and mental strength liao

I know of a couple who did that, they have 2 children. But they also own 2 properties so 1 child each

Mark Lee also did the same thing. Already bought house for his children

he gotch $$$ wat.. we nose $$$
 :frown:
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: Arctic on Apr 11, 2024, 07:58 PM
Quote from: jim889 on Apr 11, 2024, 07:54 PMhe gotch $$$ wat.. we nose $$$
 :frown:


Many sinkies own more than 1 property loh... And they have children too
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: jim889 on Apr 11, 2024, 08:23 PM
Quote from: peaceheart on Apr 11, 2024, 07:58 PMMany sinkies own more than 1 property loh... And they have children too

wat chiu mean.. moi dunno any .. or they didnt tell moi
 :frown:
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: Bardiel on Apr 11, 2024, 10:05 PM
moi also DINK

don wan have kid
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: ABCDFinanceGuy on Apr 14, 2024, 01:35 PM
Quote from: peaceheart on Apr 11, 2024, 09:13 AMI know of at least a dozen of such couples. But on the other end, I also know quite a few couples who are first time parents in their late 30s or early 40s



My wife and I used to be a DINK couple.

Now is SINK...:(
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: jim889 on Apr 14, 2024, 06:27 PM
Quote from: ABCDFinanceGuy on Apr 14, 2024, 01:35 PMMy wife and I used to be a DINK couple.

Now is SINK...:(

at least chiu NK.. otherwise .....
 :frown:
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: encourageSome1 on Apr 14, 2024, 06:57 PM
Quote from: jim889 on Apr 14, 2024, 06:27 PMat least chiu NK.. otherwise .....
 :frown:
Ask u all
If u married n accidentally conceived a child in yr old age ... will die die not keep her / him ?
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: encourageSome1 on Apr 14, 2024, 06:58 PM
Quote from: ABCDFinanceGuy on Apr 14, 2024, 01:35 PMMy wife and I used to be a DINK couple.

Now is SINK...:(
D or s
Impt question is which is the one u prefer in e grand scheme of things
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: Arctic on Apr 14, 2024, 07:15 PM
Quote from: EncourageSome1 on Apr 14, 2024, 06:57 PMAsk u all
If u married n accidentally conceived a child in yr old age ... will die die not keep her / him ?

Accidentally means not planned liao so best to abort unless you are damn rich
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: jim889 on Apr 14, 2024, 07:27 PM
Quote from: EncourageSome1 on Apr 14, 2024, 06:57 PMAsk u all
If u married n accidentally conceived a child in yr old age ... will die die not keep her / him ?


if gotch child at old age do dna first  :frown:

if really own child then keep rah
 :frown:

Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: jim889 on Apr 14, 2024, 07:27 PM
Quote from: peaceheart on Apr 14, 2024, 07:15 PMAccidentally means not planned liao so best to abort unless you are damn rich

jin sad.. sg ish rike tis .. no $ no talk
 :frown:
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: Arctic on Apr 14, 2024, 07:38 PM
Quote from: jim889 on Apr 14, 2024, 07:27 PMjin sad.. sg ish rike tis .. no $ no talk
 :frown:

She mentioned old age so that is a factor too
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: encourageSome1 on Apr 14, 2024, 08:28 PM
Quote from: peaceheart on Apr 14, 2024, 07:38 PMShe mentioned old age so that is a factor too

Yea .. not cos of whether I can give kid a suffice education / normal childhood to teen life financially, but more impt can i physically and mentally provide for e kid as a lkk human
Eg run with him for 1.6 km
Go swimming 5 times a week
Go play grounds 10 times a week
Write n coach homework every school day
Answer a known question ten to
fifty times : "no cannot" to "can I eat the third ice cream today ?"

Quote from: jim889 on Apr 14, 2024, 07:27 PMif gotch child at old age do dna first  :frown:

if really own child then keep rah
 :frown:



Wahh. This s a tough question to me even as I think abt it .. but my parents said no to my fourth sibling n nv looked back .. that time they gostaned on two is enuf policy



Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: jim889 on Apr 14, 2024, 08:55 PM
Quote from: peaceheart on Apr 14, 2024, 07:38 PMShe mentioned old age so that is a factor too

grand parent take care of young kids is jin common.
is just the $$$$ is problem since older may be retired.
 :frown:
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: jim889 on Apr 14, 2024, 08:55 PM
Quote from: EncourageSome1 on Apr 14, 2024, 08:28 PMYea .. not cos of whether I can give kid a suffice education / normal childhood to teen life financially, but more impt can i physically and mentally provide for e kid as a lkk human
Eg run with him for 1.6 km
Go swimming 5 times a week
Go play grounds 10 times a week
Write n coach homework every school day
Answer a known question ten to
fifty times : "no cannot" to "can I eat the third ice cream today ?"

Wahh. This s a tough question to me even as I think abt it .. but my parents said no to my fourth sibling n nv looked back .. that time they gostaned on two is enuf policy





chiur god gib chiu baby chiu should keep
 :frown:
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: encourageSome1 on Apr 14, 2024, 09:10 PM
Quote from: jim889 on Apr 14, 2024, 08:55 PMchiur god gib chiu baby chiu should keep
 :frown:

But my parents xx yr ago also nv keep
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: jim889 on Apr 15, 2024, 06:57 AM
Quote from: EncourageSome1 on Apr 14, 2024, 09:10 PMBut my parents xx yr ago also nv keep

chiur parents moar rikely follow cheng hoo campaign - stop at 2
 :frown:
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: encourageSome1 on Apr 15, 2024, 12:47 PM
Quote from: jim889 on Apr 15, 2024, 06:57 AMchiur parents moar rikely follow cheng hoo campaign - stop at 2
 :frown:
They thinking 🤔 also cos they offer monetary incentive to be sterilised but I think they didn't in e end
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: jim889 on Apr 15, 2024, 12:54 PM
Quote from: EncourageSome1 on Apr 15, 2024, 12:47 PMThey thinking 🤔 also cos they offer monetary incentive to be sterilised but I think they didn't in e end


sho sad if not chiu will have bro or sis
 :frown:
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: encourageSome1 on Apr 15, 2024, 02:33 PM
Quote from: jim889 on Apr 15, 2024, 12:54 PMsho sad if not chiu will have bro or sis
 :frown:
I hv ... I'm 1/3 🐒 they hv
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: jim889 on Apr 15, 2024, 02:35 PM
Quote from: EncourageSome1 on Apr 15, 2024, 02:33 PMI hv ... I'm 1/3 🐒 they hv


ya but notch enuff..

chiu should be 1/4 then good... or 1/8 ..
 :frown:
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: encourageSome1 on Apr 15, 2024, 02:39 PM
Quote from: jim889 on Apr 15, 2024, 02:35 PMya but notch enuff..

chiu should be 1/4 then good... or 1/8 ..
 :frown:
My house 🏡 bird nest not enuf for 1-5 more sii ginna without making my mom  🤮 and i m one of them she 🤢 about when I was naughty too
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: jim889 on Apr 15, 2024, 03:12 PM
Quote from: EncourageSome1 on Apr 15, 2024, 02:39 PMMy house 🏡 bird nest not enuf for 1-5 more sii ginna without making my mom  🤮 and i m one of them she 🤢 about when I was naughty too

chiu never hear the moar the merrier
 :flash:
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: ABCDFinanceGuy on Apr 15, 2024, 10:29 PM
Quote from: EncourageSome1 on Apr 14, 2024, 06:58 PMD or s
Impt question is which is the one u prefer in e grand scheme of things


I prefer to have income.

Not sure about kids.
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: encourageSome1 on Apr 15, 2024, 10:58 PM
Quote from: ABCDFinanceGuy on Apr 15, 2024, 10:29 PMI prefer to have income.

Not sure about kids.

Understand

Just now lkk go out .. was abt 8-9 pm
Saw ah mah abt 8x all hair white like snow
Pushing her handicapped ♿️ daughter or family member : about 5x on wheel chair
☹️🥺 not easy for this super old  a mah to be caregiver for the dark haired 5x aunty
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: Imboredtodeath on Apr 15, 2024, 11:21 PM
if u have kids, the kids are born good and are filial then yes lucky

not everyone has it good in life
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: ABCDFinanceGuy on Apr 16, 2024, 07:24 PM
Quote from: EncourageSome1 on Apr 15, 2024, 10:58 PMUnderstand

Just now lkk go out .. was abt 8-9 pm
Saw ah mah abt 8x all hair white like snow
Pushing her handicapped ♿️ daughter or family member : about 5x on wheel chair
☹️🥺 not easy for this super old  a mah to be caregiver for the dark haired 5x aunty

Sometimes I do wonder how I will be like when I become old.

I am not sure if I wanna be spending time in an old folks' home. Not sure if a retirement village is plausible for me though.
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: jim889 on Apr 16, 2024, 07:47 PM
Quote from: ABCDFinanceGuy on Apr 16, 2024, 07:24 PMSometimes I do wonder how I will be like when I become old.

I am not sure if I wanna be spending time in an old folks' home. Not sure if a retirement village is plausible for me though.

chiu just concentrate on wat chiu can control roh

nao yang be heypi can liao..

when old need constant medical care and assistance etc its better to be in retirement home
 :frown:
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: encourageSome1 on Apr 16, 2024, 11:16 PM
Quote from: ABCDFinanceGuy on Apr 16, 2024, 07:24 PMSometimes I do wonder how I will be like when I become old.

I am not sure if I wanna be spending time in an old folks' home. Not sure if a retirement village is plausible for me though.
I read one edmw article
The ah mah  went to stay old folks home cos she needed help w daily activities but her children all either got spouses needing them o care or they also can't spare time or fitness level to help her daily
So she go

Then later she squabble / hv mini fight w one or two of her co habitants at the home so she left and went back to her own house at circuit road. She do everything v v v slowly but at least she s independent and she said she got freedom .. not needing to be limited by home 's rules or who they make her neighbours to be .

So my Tk is , if u sociable n chincai n mostly mobile stay where is ok : yr own preference

If one is immobile then everyth also no choice alr ..
even hire a maid but ultimately they r here as hired worker , e kind of care a family member can do for u out of love is way different.. that s why so many rather hire maid to help them but ownself be caregiver to their loved one

Key thing : can u try to ensure yr own fitness n mobility thru out old age lor
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: Imboredtodeath on Apr 16, 2024, 11:43 PM
Quote from: EncourageSome1 on Apr 16, 2024, 11:16 PMI read one edmw article
The ah mah  went to stay old folks home cos she needed help w daily activities but her children all either got spouses needing them o care or they also can't spare time or fitness level to help her daily
So she go

Then later she squabble / hv mini fight w one or two of her co habitants at the home so she left and went back to her own house at circuit road. She do everything v v v slowly but at least she s independent and she said she got freedom .. not needing to be limited by home 's rules or who they make her neighbours to be .

So my Tk is , if u sociable n chincai n mostly mobile stay where is ok : yr own preference

If one is immobile then everyth also no choice alr ..
even hire a maid but ultimately they r here as hired worker , e kind of care a family member can do for u out of love is way different.. that s why so many rather hire maid to help them but ownself be caregiver to their loved one

Key thing : can u try to ensure yr own fitness n mobility thru out old age lor


actually hor thats why quite sad. if u old and sick sometimes kids also wont help u
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: ABCDFinanceGuy on Apr 23, 2024, 03:27 PM
Quote from: jim889 on Apr 16, 2024, 07:47 PMchiu just concentrate on wat chiu can control roh

nao yang be heypi can liao..

when old need constant medical care and assistance etc its better to be in retirement home
 :frown:


I agree with the last sentence. In Scandinavia and the Nordic countries, the old people would rather be in retirement homes because of the above.

Unfortunately, the same logic doesn't apply to Singapore.
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: ABCDFinanceGuy on Apr 23, 2024, 03:29 PM
Quote from: default on Apr 16, 2024, 11:43 PMactually hor thats why quite sad. if u old and sick sometimes kids also wont help u

And then people wonder why we don't wanna have kids these days.
Title: Re: DINK Couples
Post by: jim889 on Apr 23, 2024, 05:45 PM
Quote from: ABCDFinanceGuy on Apr 23, 2024, 03:27 PMI agree with the last sentence. In Scandinavia and the Nordic countries, the old people would rather be in retirement homes because of the above.

Unfortunately, the same logic doesn't apply to Singapore.

can see with aging population in sg, cheng hoo at least doing something.
at least there are moar horsepeter being built

 :frown:
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