Last year, I was a part-timer in a 3 mth contract job. In the job, I get to know a girl, who is also a part timer just like me.
Whenever I spotted the girl's mistake. I will inform the girl directly, I advice her, so that she wouldn't repeat the same mistakes. At that point of time, her attention was all on the full timers. Whatever the advices coming from full timers are bibles to her, I'm just a part timer to her it's nothing.
One month before I leave, by chance I heard full-timers criticizing about her, so I mention to her to be careful etc, what not to do, without quoting anyone's name. Just hope she take note to avoid that action. In turn, she ignored me all the way till the end till I leave the job.
Fast forward 9 months later, she msg me via Facebook (she prob deleted my number) says she missed our batch of people who don't backstab. We always kindly advised her she now appreciates it. The full-timers she prayed like gods to, backstab behind her and outcasted her, together with new part timer. She explained the reason why she ignored me is because I choose not to mention other ppl's name. Now everyday she spam message and rant to me how evil the people in that workplace is, for around 2 mths. She wished to meet me for meals if I'm free.
If u are me, how do u deal with such people? I don't feel like meeting her already, tbh.
is she single and chio ?
if no to the above 2 then dont meet lah
:frown: :frown: :frown:
Just dun reply her anymore..
CheerS!!!😉
Stay clear .. of opportunists.
Quote from: luckyapple on Apr 08, 2024, 08:41 PMLast year, I was a part-timer in a 3 mth contract job. In the job, I get to know a girl, who is also a part timer just like me.
Whenever I spotted the girl's mistake. I will inform the girl directly, I advice her, so that she wouldn't repeat the same mistakes. At that point of time, her attention was all on the full timers. Whatever the advices coming from full timers are bibles to her, I'm just a part timer to her it's nothing.
One month before I leave, by chance I heard full-timers criticizing about her, so I mention to her to be careful etc, what not to do, without quoting anyone's name. Just hope she take note to avoid that action. In turn, she ignored me all the way till the end till I leave the job.
Fast forward 9 months later, she msg me via Facebook (she prob deleted my number) says she missed our batch of people who don't backstab. We always kindly advised her she now appreciates it. The full-timers she prayed like gods to, backstab behind her and outcasted her, together with new part timer. She explained the reason why she ignored me is because I choose not to mention other ppl's name. Now everyday she spam message and rant to me how evil the people in that workplace is, for around 2 mths. She wished to meet me for meals if I'm free.
If u are me, how do u deal with such people? I don't feel like meeting her already, tbh.
just ignore her lah.
:frown:
I understand she needs an outlet to vent and I told her I wouldn't be replying much cos I hardly can handle myself. She can continue to type in our WhatsApp as usual but I wouldn't reply to her WOT much nowadays.
Ever since how she ignored me on the last month on my job. I have no desire to meet her at all.
Quote from: luckyapple on Apr 08, 2024, 08:41 PMLast year, I was a part-timer in a 3 mth contract job. In the job, I get to know a girl, who is also a part timer just like me.
Whenever I spotted the girl's mistake. I will inform the girl directly, I advice her, so that she wouldn't repeat the same mistakes. At that point of time, her attention was all on the full timers. Whatever the advices coming from full timers are bibles to her, I'm just a part timer to her it's nothing.
One month before I leave, by chance I heard full-timers criticizing about her, so I mention to her to be careful etc, what not to do, without quoting anyone's name. Just hope she take note to avoid that action. In turn, she ignored me all the way till the end till I leave the job.
Fast forward 9 months later, she msg me via Facebook (she prob deleted my number) says she missed our batch of people who don't backstab. We always kindly advised her she now appreciates it. The full-timers she prayed like gods to, backstab behind her and outcasted her, together with new part timer. She explained the reason why she ignored me is because I choose not to mention other ppl's name. Now everyday she spam message and rant to me how evil the people in that workplace is, for around 2 mths. She wished to meet me for meals if I'm free.
If u are me, how do u deal with such people? I don't feel like meeting her already, tbh.
Ignore her. Block her.
just reply less lor....... if u delete her or totally ignore her it's very obvious and she might turn on you instead
Continue to ignore her. She might have other agenda to meet u.
u are an upright person.
Now I just go by feelings. Not right I would just cut won't entertain like last time.
The late 吴孟达 has very high eq and in an interview he said He would not give advice to new actors about acting unless they ask. Make mistakes he will also not correct them unless they ask.
Im learning from him.
What he says is true.
Niw I just sit aside laugh at their stupidity and when bang walls in life
Why correct them give them tips for their beneficial when they in return give u such attitude
Quote from: default on Apr 08, 2024, 09:01 PMjust reply less lor....... if u delete her or totally ignore her it's very obvious and she might turn on you instead
I have nothing for her to let her dig tbh. That workplace is somewhere I definitely wouldn't go back to. So I am quite sure I'm free of these issues.
Quote from: Nevereatrice on Apr 08, 2024, 09:02 PMContinue to ignore her. She might have other agenda to meet u.
u are an upright person.
Now I just go by feelings. Not right I would just cut won't entertain like last time.
The late 吴孟达 has very high eq and in an interview he said He would not give advice to new actors about acting unless they ask. Make mistakes he will also not correct them unless they ask.
Im learning from him.
What he says is true.
Niw I just sit aside laugh at their stupidity and when bang walls in life
How I wish I'm in a job that doesn't need to give advice.
I wish I'm in 吴孟达 kind of job. Late 吴孟达？he is not dead rah.
In some jobs if u spot an error and u don't advice, u will feel guilty trip for a long time as it may affect many important things. At the same time as u advise, it is a thankless job cos people will throw shades and sneers at you. How I wish...
Quote from: luckyapple on Apr 08, 2024, 09:08 PMHow I wish I'm in a job that doesn't need to give advice.
I wish I'm in 吴孟达 kind of job. Late 吴孟达？he is not dead rah.
In some jobs if u spot an error and u don't advice, u will feel guilty trip for a long time as it may affect many important things. At the same time as u advise, it is a thankless job cos people will throw shades and sneers at you. How I wish...
Quote from: luckyapple on Apr 08, 2024, 09:08 PMHow I wish I'm in a job that doesn't need to give advice.
I wish I'm in 吴孟达 kind of job. Late 吴孟达？he is not dead rah.
In some jobs if u spot an error and u don't advice, u will feel guilty trip for a long time as it may affect many important things. At the same time as u advise, it is a thankless job cos people will throw shades and sneers at you. How I wish...
Let other people people correct her u just sit aside arm chio at her stupidity.
She in this situation is because of her stupidity wasn't it.
Just carry on ignore this loser
可怜之人必有可恨之处 no need pity
Quote from: Nevereatrice on Apr 08, 2024, 09:11 PMLet other people people correct her u just sit aside arm chio at her stupidity.
She in this situation is because of her stupidity wasn't it.
Just carry on ignore this loser
可怜之人必有可恨之处 no need pity
And no, I'm not an upright person. I dont have the capacity to fight every battles. It's just the guilt that will come with if u find u not advising the right thing to do, cos it can affect many people who will be handled by her.
That's why now go into part time, and slowly I will fade off wouldn't go back full time in my industry anymore. It can be mentally tiring.
Quote from: luckyapple on Apr 08, 2024, 08:41 PMLast year, I was a part-timer in a 3 mth contract job. In the job, I get to know a girl, who is also a part timer just like me.
Whenever I spotted the girl's mistake. I will inform the girl directly, I advice her, so that she wouldn't repeat the same mistakes. At that point of time, her attention was all on the full timers. Whatever the advices coming from full timers are bibles to her, I'm just a part timer to her it's nothing.
One month before I leave, by chance I heard full-timers criticizing about her, so I mention to her to be careful etc, what not to do, without quoting anyone's name. Just hope she take note to avoid that action. In turn, she ignored me all the way till the end till I leave the job.
Fast forward 9 months later, she msg me via Facebook (she prob deleted my number) says she missed our batch of people who don't backstab. We always kindly advised her she now appreciates it. The full-timers she prayed like gods to, backstab behind her and outcasted her, together with new part timer. She explained the reason why she ignored me is because I choose not to mention other ppl's name. Now everyday she spam message and rant to me how evil the people in that workplace is, for around 2 mths. She wished to meet me for meals if I'm free.
If u are me, how do u deal with such people? I don't feel like meeting her already, tbh.
Block her lah
Quote from: luckyapple on Apr 08, 2024, 08:41 PMLast year, I was a part-timer in a 3 mth contract job. In the job, I get to know a girl, who is also a part timer just like me.
Whenever I spotted the girl's mistake. I will inform the girl directly, I advice her, so that she wouldn't repeat the same mistakes. At that point of time, her attention was all on the full timers. Whatever the advices coming from full timers are bibles to her, I'm just a part timer to her it's nothing.
One month before I leave, by chance I heard full-timers criticizing about her, so I mention to her to be careful etc, what not to do, without quoting anyone's name. Just hope she take note to avoid that action. In turn, she ignored me all the way till the end till I leave the job.
Fast forward 9 months later, she msg me via Facebook (she prob deleted my number) says she missed our batch of people who don't backstab. We always kindly advised her she now appreciates it. The full-timers she prayed like gods to, backstab behind her and outcasted her, together with new part timer. She explained the reason why she ignored me is because I choose not to mention other ppl's name. Now everyday she spam message and rant to me how evil the people in that workplace is, for around 2 mths. She wished to meet me for meals if I'm free.
If u are me, how do u deal with such people? I don't feel like meeting her already, tbh.
I will say "I m sorry thanks for yr invite , I m not available . "
Go with yr heart , if u don't wish to see her and doubt u want to influence her to improve .. then she meeting u will u more resent her .. suggest not to lor
If she spam a lot and u really can't tk it maybe u want to stop reading / replying &
Jus ignore her messages ?
Don't waste your time on her anymore.
Quote from: luckyapple on Apr 08, 2024, 09:03 PMI have nothing for her to let her dig tbh. That workplace is somewhere I definitely wouldn't go back to. So I am quite sure I'm free of these issues.
still not good to totally burn bridges... just reply less and less and seem disinterested
since she was never close to u
my suggestion is to ignore such ppl
Ignore. You've already left the job.