I go his place like maybe 1-3 times per week sometimes to just help him buy food. Then sometimes i cook for him coz u know if u buy ingredients it can serve many people then sometimes i cook for him and also my dad whom i visit at nursing home
then the other time i gave him an electric steamer (to steam food). he asked if i can give to his brother (who wants it) then i said ok and he gave to his able bodied elder brother
i got to know him like maybe 3 yrs ago when i keep seeing him fall down taking like every 3 steps (fall to the ground on his knees)
everytime i tell him why not u buy some food to steam coz u should have kept that steamer.
then i say at least buy some instant noodles or cup noodles.
then he says he want fresh food. i say sometimes ur bro and sis not free and i not free to buy on your behalf, sometimes i also eat instant noodles or other stuff that's easy to cook or those preserved vege/olive vege with porridge when i dont feel well or dont go downstairs... even salted egg also ok once in a while
then he damn fucking particular about fresh food that i also dont dare to give him 1 day old food in the fridge that i eat. i even eat 1 week old food if it's ok and well kept
he nv ask for my help of course and i feel sometimes i dont want to help but i will feel bad
then i bought his PMA/PMD for him coz he really needs it. of course they paid for it la. actually his brother and sis dont want him to buy it's me who kept egging him to buy
before that he was trying to get subsidy from the govt and they refused to let him buy coz he has parkinsons. and they also disallowed people with dementia to buy with subsidy
i buy for him on shopee liao then now he can go down on his own. previously he walk every 3-4 steps will fall down then everyone will rush to help him
what do you think of this?
i feel the fact they didnt want to buy the PMA and the insistence on fresh food is actually quite selfish to others in some sense
because everytime he falls people at ntuc and on the street will rush forward to help him
then i feel many of such people also fall between the gaps and govt not helping enough
You are a good man
Quote from: Arctic on Feb 28, 2025, 03:17 PMYou are a good man
sometimes damn lazy to help coz busy now plus i injured my hand (got say before), almost 1 yr liao also nv heal i scared nerve damage... do MRI also show nth
nothing rly about good or bad. just that i saw him abt 3 yrs ago. that time dunno is it just went nursing home or soon to go nursing home
but end up still try to help
i mean i got talk to him to pour problems to him and talk cock also la, so cannot say he nv help me
then his bro and sis got thank me but sometimes me also buy my own food la so i shun bian help
his bro CNY gave me $120 angpow, but honestly la, i can tell u all, i didnt want to take. plus the value i provided (i always gave him free food which i cooked, and snacks etc. and even buy things i charge exactly same price or cheaper) is definitely multi-fold the ang pow la
i didnt even want to take because ah, i prefer to give than take. take liao feels like obligated. they nv ask me to go help. he also nv rly call me to help at all. unless absolutely when he needs help. his siblings also visit him twice per week
hes living with tenants now
but i feel ah, the insistence on fresh food is quite screwed up. healthy people also eat instant food and those frozen food mah
Quote from: default on Feb 28, 2025, 03:22 PMsometimes damn lazy to help coz busy now plus i injured my hand (got say before), almost 1 yr liao also nv heal i scared nerve damage... do MRI also show nth
nothing rly about good or bad. just that i saw him abt 3 yrs ago. that time dunno is it just went nursing home or soon to go nursing home
but end up still try to help
i mean i got talk to him to pour problems to him and talk cock also la, so cannot say he nv help me
then his bro and sis got thank me but sometimes me also buy my own food la so i shun bian help
his bro CNY gave me $120 angpow, but honestly la, i can tell u all, i didnt want to take. plus the value i provided (i always gave him free food which i cooked, and snacks etc. and even buy things i charge exactly same price or cheaper) is definitely multi-fold the ang pow la
i didnt even want to take because ah, i prefer to give than take. take liao feels like obligated. they nv ask me to go help. he also nv rly call me to help at all. unless absolutely when he needs help. his siblings also visit him twice per week
hes living with tenants now
but i feel ah, the insistence on fresh food is quite screwed up. healthy people also eat instant food and those frozen food mah
There is a limit to what you can do. Just gauge accordingly
I sometimes lend a listening ear to my autistic neighbour too. He's in his late 20s, working at a fastfood joint, previously working as barista. He's very friendly, sensible and is even proficient in hokkien. He also know his own condition and ever shared with me how his younger sister is obligated to take care of him after their parents are no longer ard and he feel very bad about it. But other than chatting with him, I don't and can't do much for him also
maybe once you walk out, he start doing one hand push-ups and HIIT
eat clean, train dirty (when you are not around)
Quote from: default on Feb 28, 2025, 03:08 PMI go his place like maybe 1-3 times per week sometimes to just help him buy food. Then sometimes i cook for him coz u know if u buy ingredients it can serve many people then sometimes i cook for him and also my dad whom i visit at nursing home
then the other time i gave him an electric steamer (to steam food). he asked if i can give to his brother (who wants it) then i said ok and he gave to his able bodied elder brother
i got to know him like maybe 3 yrs ago when i keep seeing him fall down taking like every 3 steps (fall to the ground on his knees)
U sound like my fren who adopted his neighbour.. now my fren move to Uk alr
His neighbour who alws 101 sick and alws falling down n in out hospital more often than I eat vitamins now hv maid ... the kids think nobody to watch out for their mom alr
Considered chiu having normal good neighbour and he has chiu as good neighbour. Moi oso shun bian buy & give to neighbor oso old man.Come over to drink & snack. Now he is with NS grandson raised & study in HK. Life is less boring with normal neighbour.
He will leave his hdb to u
Quote from: default on Feb 28, 2025, 03:22 PMsometimes damn lazy to help coz busy now plus i injured my hand (got say before), almost 1 yr liao also nv heal i scared nerve damage... do MRI also show nth
nothing rly about good or bad. just that i saw him abt 3 yrs ago. that time dunno is it just went nursing home or soon to go nursing home
but end up still try to help
i mean i got talk to him to pour problems to him and talk cock also la, so cannot say he nv help me
then his bro and sis got thank me but sometimes me also buy my own food la so i shun bian help
his bro CNY gave me $120 angpow, but honestly la, i can tell u all, i didnt want to take. plus the value i provided (i always gave him free food which i cooked, and snacks etc. and even buy things i charge exactly same price or cheaper) is definitely multi-fold the ang pow la
i didnt even want to take because ah, i prefer to give than take. take liao feels like obligated. they nv ask me to go help. he also nv rly call me to help at all. unless absolutely when he needs help. his siblings also visit him twice per week
hes living with tenants now
but i feel ah, the insistence on fresh food is quite screwed up. healthy people also eat instant food and those frozen food mah
Knn ppl scare cancer u stew force him jiak salted egg, instant noodle
good.. later he gib chiu his hdeebee flat :flash:
Quote from: Magical Fingertip on Feb 28, 2025, 08:37 PMHe will leave his hdb to u
no lor i nv thought of that and he alr say his sis and bro in law will take over
then his niece will take over the sis and bro in law flat in holland drive
Quote from: Magical Fingertip on Feb 28, 2025, 08:39 PMKnn ppl scare cancer u stew force him jiak salted egg, instant noodle
eh please lor. many people also jiak
plus he also not always eat healthy
full of shit one la, sometimes his bro buy quite unhealthy food i also buy unhealthy food/snacks for him