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Question: Lun or no lun ?
Option 1: Lun votes: 5
Option 2: No lun votes: 4
Title: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Risa on Sep 25, 2024, 10:32 PM
Since I already lun for so long and now is towards Q4 of the year

See many job openings look like firefighting type aka go straight into hell/shythole
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Tuna seng on Sep 25, 2024, 11:00 PM
No....
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Risa on Sep 25, 2024, 11:01 PM
Quote from: Nevereatrice on Sep 25, 2024, 11:00 PMNo....


I must lun for it ?
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Tuna seng on Sep 25, 2024, 11:05 PM
Quote from: Shiori on Sep 25, 2024, 11:01 PMI must lun for it ?
Unless  u got better job or other plans. Leave after taking the money
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Risa on Sep 25, 2024, 11:06 PM
Quote from: Nevereatrice on Sep 25, 2024, 11:05 PMUnless  u got better job or other plans. Leave after taking the money


if got better job, f the bonus/aws n just leave ?
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Imboredtodeath on Sep 25, 2024, 11:24 PM
Quote from: Shiori on Sep 25, 2024, 11:06 PMif got better job, f the bonus/aws n just leave ?

depends on your assessment. now alr end of the year. u took so long also havent found

by the time u find would be dec/jan alr bonus time just tell the new company to wait lor

if not let's say u already find something next mth and they want u immediately, u dont smell suspicions?

if u get 1 in mid nov, just tell them u join them in january

need to think so much meh
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: nyvrem on Sep 25, 2024, 11:57 PM
u take AWS/bonus, will need to stay until March when job openings start showing up when ppl like urself quit their current coy. then another merry go round again.

Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Imboredtodeath on Sep 26, 2024, 12:49 AM
Quote from: nyvrem on Sep 25, 2024, 11:57 PMu take AWS/bonus, will need to stay until March when job openings start showing up when ppl like urself quit their current coy. then another merry go round again.



everywhr is got problems one. more or less only

like currently i have to work with that cheebye bitch
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Risa on Sep 26, 2024, 06:49 AM
Quote from: nyvrem on Sep 25, 2024, 11:57 PMu take AWS/bonus, will need to stay until March when job openings start showing up when ppl like urself quit their current coy. then another merry go round again.



so if i now got better offer = just go ?
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: 氰化钾 KCN on Sep 26, 2024, 07:20 AM
TS no commitment for now, if really buey Lun is can just throw letter.
Own health and mind more impt.

Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: BuiBuiForeverAlone on Sep 26, 2024, 12:03 PM
If you really cannot take it anymore then it's better not to lun. If you prioritize your job over everything else you should lun.
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Arctic on Sep 26, 2024, 12:06 PM
Depends on when you will recieve your bonus loh

My past experience
13th mth in dec
Bonus and increment in apr

Some coys will stagger their bonus every few mths of have it credited into salary. There are many ways to "retain" employees
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: jim889 on Sep 26, 2024, 12:08 PM
Quote from: Shiori on Sep 25, 2024, 10:32 PMSince I already lun for so long and now is towards Q4 of the year

See many job openings look like firefighting type aka go straight into hell/shythole

just appry first.. gotch offer then think abt it.

the most just bruff them said need to gib 2 mths / 3 mths notice...

wait till cut off date for bonus passed then leesign
 :flash:
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: jim889 on Sep 26, 2024, 12:09 PM
Quote from: peaceheart on Sep 26, 2024, 12:06 PMDepends on when you will recieve your bonus loh

My past experience
13th mth in dec
Bonus and increment in apr

Some coys will stagger their bonus every few mths of have it credited into salary. There are many ways to "retain" employees

rast taim moi leesign jan then 2 mth notice take bonus and last day is last day of feb
 :flash:
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: nyvrem on Sep 26, 2024, 07:47 PM
Quote from: Shiori on Sep 26, 2024, 06:49 AMso if i now got better offer = just go ?

boils down to simple math loh. AWS + bonus vs how much u getting now

does the new salary make up for the loss income
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: pikapika33 on Sep 26, 2024, 07:49 PM
oct to dec more opening i feel
but have to give up aws lo

but than, if cannot get a better job, why not just hang in there?
after cny and bonuses you will need to compete with alot more people though as people normally wait until take bonus than jump

so give and take lo see got opportunity or not
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: nyvrem on Sep 26, 2024, 07:49 PM
Quote from: default on Sep 26, 2024, 12:49 AMeverywhr is got problems one. more or less only

like currently i have to work with that cheebye bitch

i find women very very hard to work with

Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: jim889 on Sep 26, 2024, 07:52 PM
Quote from: nyvrem on Sep 26, 2024, 07:49 PMi find women very very hard to work with



sure or notch.. teacher jod mostly woman moar
 :s13:
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: nyvrem on Sep 26, 2024, 08:01 PM
Quote from: jim889 on Sep 26, 2024, 07:52 PMsure or notch.. teacher jod mostly woman moar
 :s13:

thats y im in admin side liao
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: tokiya on Sep 26, 2024, 08:08 PM
Your mental health and happiness worth more than bonus and AWS.

If you are happier to leave, just leave. Trust me.
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: jim889 on Sep 26, 2024, 08:12 PM
Quote from: nyvrem on Sep 26, 2024, 08:01 PMthats y im in admin side liao

admin also many woman ma
 :s13:
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Risa on Sep 26, 2024, 09:38 PM
thanks all for your inputs !
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: encourageSome1 on Sep 26, 2024, 10:34 PM
Quote from: Shiori on Sep 25, 2024, 10:32 PMSince I already lun for so long and now is towards Q4 of the year

See many job openings look like firefighting type aka go straight into hell/shythole

I think can go n interview no problem
Like u hv a donkey but look for horse ok ma

If opportunity is normal u might or not want cos of yr aws

But if u see something potential .. nett worth is worth giving up e aws I ll go la : this me .. everyone thinks differently
But in e end everyone earns a living at a liveable place can alr
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: nyvrem on Sep 26, 2024, 11:11 PM
Quote from: jim889 on Sep 26, 2024, 08:12 PMadmin also many woman ma
 :s13:

my department 4 ppl nia

2 guys 2 girls. same 4 of us for 10 years liao

no need worli
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: jim889 on Sep 27, 2024, 07:15 AM
Quote from: nyvrem on Sep 26, 2024, 11:11 PMmy department 4 ppl nia

2 guys 2 girls. same 4 of us for 10 years liao

no need worli

then if 1 pax transfer out then hoh say liao
 :s13:
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: nyvrem on Sep 27, 2024, 12:07 PM
Quote from: jim889 on Sep 27, 2024, 07:15 AMthen if 1 pax transfer out then hoh say liao
 :s13:

nobody transfers out/in unless they want quit/retire

its a fix department

perks of working as a serpent in a tiny dark corner department

we get to choose our own career path

 :o
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: jim889 on Sep 27, 2024, 03:53 PM
Quote from: nyvrem on Sep 27, 2024, 12:07 PMnobody transfers out/in unless they want quit/retire

its a fix department

perks of working as a serpent in a tiny dark corner department

we get to choose our own career path

 :o

ya.. as long as circumstances change for 1 pax they will quit/leetire
 :s13:
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Imboredtodeath on Sep 27, 2024, 04:13 PM
Quote from: nyvrem on Sep 26, 2024, 07:49 PMi find women very very hard to work with



Many of them are damn toxic and vindictive. Not all but enough of them.

Even women dont want to work under women
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Imboredtodeath on Sep 27, 2024, 04:18 PM
My case she insulted me even her co worker agree she went overboard. I could have gone to her 2 levels higher and hr.

And i realised all along she guailan me and gaslight me say i beh kan all are untrue that i can counter.

Talk to me about technical knowledge and competency but i actually trounce her at it.

Even if talk abt writing paper, proposals and presentations, even quarreling professionally people above me 2 levels also lose my ang mor and chinese.

Who does she think she is? Recently she made personal attacks on me and that was the last straw

Last time she say i slack then i thought abt it and agreed. After that i did a lot more even part of her work and i 问心无愧 but she still kept on being vindictive and aiming me everytime


Her boss and co worker knows i buay lun liao. And im not a pushover. Recently just cleared her shit
She also not appreciative or thankful.

If i go on 100% offensive she cant handle me for sure. 100%. Even her boss cant take me on. Im not being haolian here.

I rly bow down, and apologised last time for slacking (1+ yrs ago) and am now in some ways doing more than her. Yet she still play little tricks to undermine me. I made it clear to her boss and co worker i will not let her off liao and i reserve the rights to pursue the matter
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: encourageSome1 on Sep 27, 2024, 04:31 PM
Quote from: default on Sep 27, 2024, 04:18 PMMy case she insulted me even her co worker agree she went overboard. I could have gone to her 2 levels higher and hr.

And i realised all along she guailan me and gaslight me say i beh kan all are untrue that i can counter.

Talk to me about technical knowledge and competency but i actually trounce her at it.

Even if talk abt writing paper, proposals and presentations, even quarreling professionally people above me 2 levels also lose my ang mor and chinese.

Who does she think she is? Recently she made personal attacks on me and that was the last straw

Last time she say i slack then i thought abt it and agreed. After that i did a lot more even part of her work and i 问心无愧 but she still kept on being vindictive and aiming me everytime


Her boss and co worker knows i buay lun liao. And im not a pushover. Recently just cleared her shit
She also not appreciative or thankful.

If i go on 100% offensive she cant handle me for sure. 100%. Even her boss cant take me on. Im not being haolian here.

I rly bow down, and apologised last time for slacking (1+ yrs ago) and am now in some ways doing more than her. Yet she still play little tricks to undermine me. I made it clear to her boss and co worker i will not let her off liao and i reserve the rights to pursue the matter
Either offender is a siaolang or she been hurt so she isn't in right state of mind to appreciate other ppl like u who helped her
Sounds like She making shit for herself
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Suntan on Sep 27, 2024, 04:34 PM
Lun. Figure out a way to get FTs aka your colleagues out. Then boss will hv to treat Chiu better & oso get your bonus.
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Imboredtodeath on Sep 27, 2024, 04:56 PM
Quote from: EncourageSome1 on Sep 27, 2024, 04:31 PMEither offender is a siaolang or she been hurt so she isn't in right state of mind to appreciate other ppl like u who helped her
Sounds like She making shit for herself


ive been thinking should i go up to her boss again or not

if wait longer then no more valid reason but if i go to the boss she not happy and find ways again

but knowing her pattern i report or dont report her after some time she sure aim me

she doesnt like me coz i look young and inexperienced. she openly insulted me

i really fucking want to kill her honestly. everyday just wish for her to langga and die

because last time i nv wish death upon my enemies but i realised they always live good lives anyway. i dont aim her she will still aim me whenever she gets the chance

她不死,我睡不着
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Imboredtodeath on Sep 27, 2024, 04:57 PM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7apTiQgmRBk&pp=ygUV5LiN5q2777yM5oiR552h5LiN552A

a lot of people 把你的仁慈,当作是软糯无能
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Arctic on Sep 27, 2024, 05:46 PM
Quote from: default on Sep 27, 2024, 04:56 PMive been thinking should i go up to her boss again or not

if wait longer then no more valid reason but if i go to the boss she not happy and find ways again

but knowing her pattern i report or dont report her after some time she sure aim me

she doesnt like me coz i look young and inexperienced. she openly insulted me

i really fucking want to kill her honestly. everyday just wish for her to langga and die

because last time i nv wish death upon my enemies but i realised they always live good lives anyway. i dont aim her she will still aim me whenever she gets the chance

她不死,我睡不着

Bro chill... Fri and weekend liao

Mon come then stress. Enjoy first

Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Imboredtodeath on Sep 27, 2024, 05:58 PM
Quote from: peaceheart on Sep 27, 2024, 05:46 PMBro chill... Fri and weekend liao

Mon come then stress. Enjoy first



i every time loon her, 2 weeks ago i blasted her then she made some sarcastic remarks. i will just say here. she gave an analogy about a little boy and buying his toy car when i asked about budget and savings.

it's an obvious insult even her coworker understood what she was saying - she was insinuating that i looked young and inexperienced and im small sized even though im still taller than her but wow her insult is obvious as fuck.

shes a disgusting human being dont u think so?

basically if let's say you are ugly. or small sized or look like small boy or maybe whatever like fat or smelly she use that to say some stupid analogy that does not make any sense. it's an open, personal attack directed at me.

i never ever ever in my entire life used this against anyone. this is totally unprofessional and childish. maybe we will do so when we are in primary school, or secondary school.  this is a clear case of workplace bullying

just recently, my technical knowledge and understanding was proven. last time i asked about a solution, she just said - what is that? never heard of it. u know what ure talking about or not? - i kept quiet because i wasnt very sure and didnt want to quarrel with her


recently someone else mentioned that solution and she tiam tiam. i will just say it here also. the thing is cloning hard disk. she said she never hear of this term before. LOL, then u work similanjiao IT?

i dont wan to blow this up because later if others get to know about it also look bad on me and they feel i cant "take these people in hand"

u know before this incident she do many small little 小动作 to say me. find ways to undermine me whenever i make a small mistake. whenever i catch her making mistakes i tiam tiam and dont want to make her look bad, but she will take every damn opportunity to get back at me.

actually  she is the most useless in her team also despite being the team lead


and before this latest incident, just 3 days ago i cleared her shit, stood up for her team and went against my own dept.

and i shot my own dept's people higher level until they tiam tiam and also cannot find words to say against me. got 1 higher up want to 抢功劳

i jitao shoot him and also defended her even though she was 50% wrong. i did so coz i also buay song the other team in my own dept. by doing so i made enemies in my own dept.

i also stood for her because i thought this can resolve some issues and make her not aim me or aim me less. i didnt need to defend her but i did so to show that i can take sides and defend when i want to, and hopefully to foster relations to make it less tense

but if i could stand up against my side and make them shut up until dont counter, she thinks i will let her off.

just 3 days after that incident (about 2-3 weeks ago) she suddenly did this shit.

anyway i nv go up to her boss, but this Tues, i talked her to her colleague and said im damn pissed. I also said this matter if escalate up will not be at their level or at their bosses level, but let's talk at 2-3 levels above and at HR. Her colleague (also a girl) used to defend her. and this girl is way nicer and does way more work and heavy lifting and the technical aspects.


i really mean business, there's a line no one should cross. she crossed it multiple times. i warned her colleague. i dont care if she go tell her and she wants to wage war with me.

im prepared to put my job and life on the line. if she wants to play i assure u i will make her regret even if it means i have to die with her (literally and figuratively)

she really totally disrespect me until nothing left and totally unprofessional. totally 100% she is at fault

now is coz of the project i dont want to stir further. but i already made it known liao, there will not be a next time.

i wanted to kao peh, but definitely not demand apology, because whether i get that apology is up to her and her boss and whether i accept it is another thing altogether.
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: encourageSome1 on Sep 27, 2024, 06:42 PM
Quote from: default on Sep 27, 2024, 04:56 PMive been thinking should i go up to her boss again or not

if wait longer then no more valid reason but if i go to the boss she not happy and find ways again

but knowing her pattern i report or dont report her after some time she sure aim me

she doesnt like me coz i look young and inexperienced. she openly insulted me

i really fucking want to kill her honestly. everyday just wish for her to langga and die

because last time i nv wish death upon my enemies but i realised they always live good lives anyway. i dont aim her she will still aim me whenever she gets the chance

她不死,我睡不着
I think if me I ll thrash it out one by one incident with her but your bosss or her boss witnessing u iron thg out with her
Make sure u calm n composed
N mk objective : how can we mk work flow smooth rather than about u and her personal feud .

Ppl do something is for their background n own prejudices and how they perceive u and rest of world

If can iron thg out then all will be ok

Either she know u meant no harm and helped her
Or she know u not pushover she ll stop

Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: encourageSome1 on Sep 27, 2024, 06:46 PM
Quote from: default on Sep 27, 2024, 05:58 PMi every time loon her, 2 weeks ago i blasted her then she made some sarcastic remarks. i will just say here. she gave an analogy about a little boy and buying his toy car when i asked about budget and savings.

it's an obvious insult even her coworker understood what she was saying - she was insinuating that i looked young and inexperienced and im small sized even though im still taller than her but wow her insult is obvious as fuck.

shes a disgusting human being dont u think so?

basically if let's say you are ugly. or small sized or look like small boy or maybe whatever like fat or smelly she use that to say some stupid analogy that does not make any sense. it's an open, personal attack directed at me.

i never ever ever in my entire life used this against anyone. this is totally unprofessional and childish. maybe we will do so when we are in primary school, or secondary school.  this is a clear case of workplace bullying

just recently, my technical knowledge and understanding was proven. last time i asked about a solution, she just said - what is that? never heard of it. u know what ure talking about or not? - i kept quiet because i wasnt very sure and didnt want to quarrel with her


recently someone else mentioned that solution and she tiam tiam. i will just say it here also. the thing is cloning hard disk. she said she never hear of this term before. LOL, then u work similanjiao IT?

i dont wan to blow this up because later if others get to know about it also look bad on me and they feel i cant "take these people in hand"

u know before this incident she do many small little 小动作 to say me. find ways to undermine me whenever i make a small mistake. whenever i catch her making mistakes i tiam tiam and dont want to make her look bad, but she will take every damn opportunity to get back at me.

actually  she is the most useless in her team also despite being the team lead


and before this latest incident, just 3 days ago i cleared her shit, stood up for her team and went against my own dept.

and i shot my own dept's people higher level until they tiam tiam and also cannot find words to say against me. got 1 higher up want to 抢功劳

i jitao shoot him and also defended her even though she was 50% wrong. i did so coz i also buay song the other team in my own dept. by doing so i made enemies in my own dept.

i also stood for her because i thought this can resolve some issues and make her not aim me or aim me less. i didnt need to defend her but i did so to show that i can take sides and defend when i want to, and hopefully to foster relations to make it less tense

but if i could stand up against my side and make them shut up until dont counter, she thinks i will let her off.

just 3 days after that incident (about 2-3 weeks ago) she suddenly did this shit.

anyway i nv go up to her boss, but this Tues, i talked her to her colleague and said im damn pissed. I also said this matter if escalate up will not be at their level or at their bosses level, but let's talk at 2-3 levels above and at HR. Her colleague (also a girl) used to defend her. and this girl is way nicer and does way more work and heavy lifting and the technical aspects.


i really mean business, there's a line no one should cross. she crossed it multiple times. i warned her colleague. i dont care if she go tell her and she wants to wage war with me.

im prepared to put my job and life on the line. if she wants to play i assure u i will make her regret even if it means i have to die with her (literally and figuratively)

she really totally disrespect me until nothing left and totally unprofessional. totally 100% she is at fault

now is coz of the project i dont want to stir further. but i already made it known liao, there will not be a next time.

i wanted to kao peh, but definitely not demand apology, because whether i get that apology is up to her and her boss and whether i accept it is another thing altogether.

I think u need to calm down n ask urself
What is it you want from her
N what do u want to have in the long run.

If she apologise and stop her shi t in long run : not ok for u. What s ok ?

May need to ask yrself what u need vs want in the end

If she don't meddle with u and u can't tahan her .. either she leave or u leave it's either
Co don't want to care abt personal issues they just want least time and most work done or most $ produced
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Arctic on Sep 27, 2024, 06:48 PM
Quote from: default on Sep 27, 2024, 05:58 PMi every time loon her, 2 weeks ago i blasted her then she made some sarcastic remarks. i will just say here. she gave an analogy about a little boy and buying his toy car when i asked about budget and savings.

it's an obvious insult even her coworker understood what she was saying - she was insinuating that i looked young and inexperienced and im small sized even though im still taller than her but wow her insult is obvious as fuck.

shes a disgusting human being dont u think so?

basically if let's say you are ugly. or small sized or look like small boy or maybe whatever like fat or smelly she use that to say some stupid analogy that does not make any sense. it's an open, personal attack directed at me.

i never ever ever in my entire life used this against anyone. this is totally unprofessional and childish. maybe we will do so when we are in primary school, or secondary school.  this is a clear case of workplace bullying

just recently, my technical knowledge and understanding was proven. last time i asked about a solution, she just said - what is that? never heard of it. u know what ure talking about or not? - i kept quiet because i wasnt very sure and didnt want to quarrel with her


recently someone else mentioned that solution and she tiam tiam. i will just say it here also. the thing is cloning hard disk. she said she never hear of this term before. LOL, then u work similanjiao IT?

i dont wan to blow this up because later if others get to know about it also look bad on me and they feel i cant "take these people in hand"

u know before this incident she do many small little 小动作 to say me. find ways to undermine me whenever i make a small mistake. whenever i catch her making mistakes i tiam tiam and dont want to make her look bad, but she will take every damn opportunity to get back at me.

actually  she is the most useless in her team also despite being the team lead


and before this latest incident, just 3 days ago i cleared her shit, stood up for her team and went against my own dept.

and i shot my own dept's people higher level until they tiam tiam and also cannot find words to say against me. got 1 higher up want to 抢功劳

i jitao shoot him and also defended her even though she was 50% wrong. i did so coz i also buay song the other team in my own dept. by doing so i made enemies in my own dept.

i also stood for her because i thought this can resolve some issues and make her not aim me or aim me less. i didnt need to defend her but i did so to show that i can take sides and defend when i want to, and hopefully to foster relations to make it less tense

but if i could stand up against my side and make them shut up until dont counter, she thinks i will let her off.

just 3 days after that incident (about 2-3 weeks ago) she suddenly did this shit.

anyway i nv go up to her boss, but this Tues, i talked her to her colleague and said im damn pissed. I also said this matter if escalate up will not be at their level or at their bosses level, but let's talk at 2-3 levels above and at HR. Her colleague (also a girl) used to defend her. and this girl is way nicer and does way more work and heavy lifting and the technical aspects.


i really mean business, there's a line no one should cross. she crossed it multiple times. i warned her colleague. i dont care if she go tell her and she wants to wage war with me.

im prepared to put my job and life on the line. if she wants to play i assure u i will make her regret even if it means i have to die with her (literally and figuratively)

she really totally disrespect me until nothing left and totally unprofessional. totally 100% she is at fault

now is coz of the project i dont want to stir further. but i already made it known liao, there will not be a next time.

i wanted to kao peh, but definitely not demand apology, because whether i get that apology is up to her and her boss and whether i accept it is another thing altogether.

Auntie in IT?! She sounds really unprofessional. She should just work and fuck off lah even if dun like the other party

I kena bullied by my auntie receptionist when I'm new too. That time just diam diam and admit it's my fault for something very trivial.


Got another time my colic who is ah beng but is also more jr than me threatened my rice bowl cos I got into a dispute with him. He knows my backgnd and I reminded him that I have contacts in the top coys in our field whereas he come from lesser coys. Who has more power? Also, I challenged him to 1 to 1 fight if he want. I'm taller and bigger build than him too, won't lose. After that he diam diam and apologise
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Imboredtodeath on Sep 27, 2024, 06:51 PM
Quote from: EncourageSome1 on Sep 27, 2024, 06:46 PMI think u need to calm down n ask urself
What is it you want from her
N what do u want to have in the long run.

If she apologise and stop her shi t in long run : not ok for u. What s ok ?

May need to ask yrself what u need vs want in the end

If she don't meddle with u and u can't tahan her .. either she leave or u leave it's either
Co don't want to care abt personal issues they just want least time and most work done or most $ produced


yes correct. i know co dont care about personal issues. at first they will act like they care, but in this world most people dont care.

for me i care about my colleagues

thats why i nv escalate is also not for her but for myself. now i have the trump card against her and she knows i wont let her do her stupid shit over and over

thats why i also thinking ya this time round let it go. but will go up the next time. im also buying time to leave or find some other ways to make money or whatever

she is damn unprofessional la, it's more of me looking super young that's all and my voice sounds more like teenager.

got many others same or smaller size but look older. but they also higher rank or what so she dare not say them

in terms of doing work i nv screw up or unprofessional.

so now im also playing my cards to see first. sometimes it does not pay to fight head on or escalate or whatever. i know if i escalate now i sure win 100%, at least in the short term, but over longer term sure make myself look bad
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Imboredtodeath on Sep 27, 2024, 06:57 PM
Quote from: EncourageSome1 on Sep 27, 2024, 06:46 PMI think u need to calm down n ask urself
What is it you want from her
N what do u want to have in the long run.

If she apologise and stop her shi t in long run : not ok for u. What s ok ?

May need to ask yrself what u need vs want in the end

If she don't meddle with u and u can't tahan her .. either she leave or u leave it's either
Co don't want to care abt personal issues they just want least time and most work done or most $ produced


for me it's more about looks (i look damn young + my voice sounds like a teenager), size wise yes im small but a lot of people are shorter or smaller sized but she dare not aim them coz they higher rank (i joined late).

and that time because i felt sian about the project hence i slacked for about 3 mths (for her predecessor), so i was in the wrong and admitted. but after that i really did more than do my part of the job liao.

but it's also because of this admission that she finds ways and means to pick on me, thinking it's her trump card

we are same ranked.

she feel she can makan me, because so far i tiam tiam and let her win, dont shoot her in front of contractors or my dept or her dept... for the past 1yr+ even when i got the prerogative and means to.

but after the confrontation 3 weeks ago when i blasted her and after her stupid analogy now she stopped her antics for 2-3 weeks, but when i went her dept this Tues she purposely dont want to see or acknowledge me.

Actually this Tues, I arranged for a meeting with her and her boss and wanted to confront them and scold her in front of the boss and threaten to bring it up 3 or 4 levels higher to management and HR level. but then the boss thought it's a casual meeting and asked me to meet him at the meeting room where there were other teams and people around so not so appropriate thats why i only talked about work during the meeting instead and steered away from this topic.


all i can say is past 1 yr+ i let her have her way to subtly poke, nudge, insult, insinuate things at me, but 3 weeks ago that incident even her colleague knows she crossed the line


thats why now i have advantage i keeping it only. she knows i dare to shoot her back because i shoot someone 2 levels higher (my own dept), and i protected her boss (2 levels higher) not too long ago

actually it's only coz i joined late that's why i 2 levels lower else i would be her boss's level

i hold on only, she knows that now i wont let her off liao that's why i dont want to escalate further and make it look bad on me in the longer term
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: nyvrem on Sep 27, 2024, 07:33 PM
Quote from: jim889 on Sep 27, 2024, 03:53 PMya.. as long as circumstances change for 1 pax they will quit/leetire
 :s13:

dont need worli for moi

moi ish jin comfortable in life riao

:o
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: nyvrem on Sep 27, 2024, 07:34 PM
Quote from: default on Sep 27, 2024, 04:56 PMive been thinking should i go up to her boss again or not

if wait longer then no more valid reason but if i go to the boss she not happy and find ways again

but knowing her pattern i report or dont report her after some time she sure aim me

she doesnt like me coz i look young and inexperienced. she openly insulted me

i really fucking want to kill her honestly. everyday just wish for her to langga and die

because last time i nv wish death upon my enemies but i realised they always live good lives anyway. i dont aim her she will still aim me whenever she gets the chance

她不死,我睡不着

maybe time to find new job

this type of stress long run no good huan

 :frown:
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Arctic on Sep 27, 2024, 07:46 PM
Quote from: nyvrem on Sep 27, 2024, 07:33 PMdont need worli for moi

moi ish jin comfortable in life riao

:o

Jin jelly

Silver serpent, rich family, stay condo, drive conti, 2 children

SG dream
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Imboredtodeath on Sep 27, 2024, 07:51 PM
Quote from: nyvrem on Sep 27, 2024, 07:34 PMmaybe time to find new job

this type of stress long run no good huan

 :frown:

now things are ok coz i hold upper hand but ya i know.

must plan and see mah
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: nyvrem on Sep 27, 2024, 07:58 PM
Quote from: peaceheart on Sep 27, 2024, 07:46 PMJin jelly

Silver serpent, rich family, stay condo, drive conti, 2 children

SG dream

sir, ive never driven a conti b4

plz dont put me and conti together

 :mad:
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: jim889 on Sep 27, 2024, 08:26 PM
Quote from: nyvrem on Sep 27, 2024, 07:33 PMdont need worli for moi

moi ish jin comfortable in life riao

:o

chiu heypi can liao
 :flash:
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: 雨过天晴 on Sep 27, 2024, 11:30 PM
Nub la i kena workplace bullying cos some ppl dun like me in my first few years
Include:
Exclude me for lunches/gathering
Behind me gong jiao wei
Apprasial say i low eq/sq
Tried to get hr to transfer me to HQ

Maybe cos i mild autism and rub ppl off the wrong way

And maybe cos i autistic enjoyed them leaving me alone and do my own thing

Got work i still deliber, in the end i got scholarsheep when changed CO, must have gave him a smlj when i posted
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Imboredtodeath on Sep 27, 2024, 11:46 PM
Quote from: mGx-Alander on Sep 27, 2024, 11:30 PMNub la i kena workplace bullying cos some ppl dun like me in my first few years
Include:
Exclude me for lunches/gathering
Behind me gong jiao wei
Apprasial say i low eq/sq
Tried to get hr to transfer me to HQ

Maybe cos i mild autism and rub ppl off the wrong way

And maybe cos i autistic enjoyed them leaving me alone and do my own thing

Got work i still deliber, in the end i got scholarsheep when changed CO, must have gave him a smlj when i posted
post what? that u got scholarship?
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: 雨过天晴 on Sep 28, 2024, 12:17 AM
Quote from: default on Sep 27, 2024, 11:46 PMpost what? that u got scholarship?



Moi graduate from scholarsheep  :s22:
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: Imboredtodeath on Sep 28, 2024, 12:26 AM
Quote from: mGx-Alander on Sep 28, 2024, 12:17 AMMoi graduate from scholarsheep  :s22:

u eat too full i nv post anything one
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: 雨过天晴 on Sep 28, 2024, 02:03 AM
Quote from: default on Sep 28, 2024, 12:26 AMu eat too full i nv post anything one


must say big big and gain attention to bosses, paul their lampard for their recommendation to scholarsheep ma
Title: Re: Should I give up on my possible bonus/AWS
Post by: nyvrem on Sep 28, 2024, 04:46 PM
Quote from: mGx-Alander on Sep 28, 2024, 02:03 AMmust say big big and gain attention to bosses, paul their lampard for their recommendation to scholarsheep ma

"BOSS U SEE, I DO PPT NICE NICE"
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