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Title: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: Tuna seng on Sep 19, 2024, 02:04 PM
Should I continue with marriage after infidelity?

Just found out that my wife cheated on me with her work colleague. Even before our marriage 2 years ago. Felt like a real idiot now..

Currently she is pregnant and claims that it's mine. I'm going to do a paternity test in the following weeks to determine if it's mine or not.

Question is, if it's mine, should I continue the marriage for the sake of the baby? But I know I could not look her in the eye anymore, the dynamic is broken and the upbringing of the baby will definitely be affected.

Anyone has similar experiences that can give some advice? I'm really very lost here and the thought of her sleeping with another man just disgusts me on all levels. I'm afraid I will not be a proper father to our baby in the future because my anger and hatred will always be lingering. I know the baby is innocent and has nothing to do with the situation. I just can't bear the thought of raising a child with someone who cheated on me..


Which edmwer is this?
Title: Re: [Reddit] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: Arctic on Sep 19, 2024, 02:16 PM
Wah no matter what he's on the losing end

I know someone in similar situation but he stay on in the marriage
Title: Re: [Reddit] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: Tuna seng on Sep 19, 2024, 02:20 PM
Quote from: peaceheart on Sep 19, 2024, 02:16 PMWah no matter what he's on the losing end

I know someone in similar situation but he stay on in the marriage

So despo for sex ah
Title: Re: [Reddit] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: BuiBuiForeverAlone on Sep 19, 2024, 02:51 PM
In NS already wear green helmet not enough ah...still kena wear green hat by wife. :frown:
Title: Re: [Reddit] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: Chao seng on Sep 19, 2024, 02:57 PM
Just divorce..

A broken trust will still have cracks after mending..

Hope dun get pwned by AWARE if this story is real..


CheerS!!!😉
Title: Re: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: Tuna seng on Sep 19, 2024, 03:02 PM
Quote from: Banned User on Sep 19, 2024, 02:51 PMIn NS already wear green helmet not enough ah...still kena wear green hat by wife. :frown:

True love
Title: Re: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: Tuna seng on Sep 19, 2024, 03:03 PM
Quote from: GhostZM on Sep 19, 2024, 02:57 PMJust divorce..

A broken trust will still have cracks after mending..

Hope dun get pwned by AWARE if this story is real..


CheerS!!!😉

divorce need to pay alimony to raise kid up Even if child not his? 😂
Title: Re: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: Arctic on Sep 19, 2024, 03:04 PM
Quote from: GhostZM on Sep 19, 2024, 02:57 PMJust divorce..

A broken trust will still have cracks after mending..

Hope dun get pwned by AWARE if this story is real..


CheerS!!!😉

AWARE can't do anything. WC is the killer
Title: Re: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: Chao seng on Sep 19, 2024, 03:05 PM
Quote from: Nevereatrice on Sep 19, 2024, 03:03 PMdivorce need to pay alimony to raise kid up Even if child not his? 😂

Dunno..but doesn't make sense if the kid isn't his rite?

I would rather declare bankrupt if judge rule against me..


CheerS!!!😉
Title: Re: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: Chao seng on Sep 19, 2024, 03:06 PM
Quote from: peaceheart on Sep 19, 2024, 03:04 PMAWARE can't do anything. WC is the killer

Ah yeah..I meant to say WC..lol


CheerS!!!😉
Title: Re: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: vezelover on Sep 19, 2024, 05:14 PM
what a cuck, this kinda thing also need to consider meh? straight divorce.
Title: Re: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: nyvrem on Sep 19, 2024, 06:09 PM
1 day pack bags up and quit SG silently

go find siambu and YOLO

:o
Title: Re: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: Philipkee on Sep 19, 2024, 06:31 PM
Quote from: Nevereatrice on Sep 19, 2024, 03:03 PMdivorce need to pay alimony to raise kid up Even if child not his? 😂
Heard before NO NEED but IF you never do DNA test and when child is born and then you put your name as the father, then you must
Title: Re: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: Philipkee on Sep 19, 2024, 06:33 PM
Quote from: GhostZM on Sep 19, 2024, 03:05 PMDunno..but doesn't make sense if the kid isn't his rite?

I would rather declare bankrupt if judge rule against me..


CheerS!!!😉

Can I be Forced to Maintain a Child Even Though I am not the Parent?
I'm not a parent. Can the court still force me to pay for a child's maintenance?

Yes. The court may make you liable for the maintenance of someone else's child if the child has been accepted as a member of your family, and if the father or mother of the child fails to maintain him/her.

How do I know if I accepted a child as a member of my family?

The most obvious way that a non-parent accepts a child is through an express declaration. Besides this, s 70 of the Women's Charter focuses on the quality of the relationship between the non-parent and the child to decide.

Strong indicators which previous cases have showed include changing the child's surname to that of yours, encouraging the child to address you as "dad" or "mom", including the child in family outings.

What if I thought the child was mine, but later found out he/she wasn't?

The court may still find that you have accepted the child, as a member of your family, even if you assumed parental responsibility on the basis of facts that later turned out to be false.

However, it is possible that the court will not find acceptance in exceptional situations involving fraudulent conduct.

https://www.gjclaw.com.sg/articles/can-forced-maintain-child-even-though-not-parent/
Title: Re: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: jim889 on Sep 19, 2024, 06:56 PM
Quote from: Nevereatrice on Sep 19, 2024, 02:04 PMShould I continue with marriage after infidelity?

Just found out that my wife cheated on me with her work colleague. Even before our marriage 2 years ago. Felt like a real idiot now..

Currently she is pregnant and claims that it's mine. I'm going to do a paternity test in the following weeks to determine if it's mine or not.

Question is, if it's mine, should I continue the marriage for the sake of the baby? But I know I could not look her in the eye anymore, the dynamic is broken and the upbringing of the baby will definitely be affected.

Anyone has similar experiences that can give some advice? I'm really very lost here and the thought of her sleeping with another man just disgusts me on all levels. I'm afraid I will not be a proper father to our baby in the future because my anger and hatred will always be lingering. I know the baby is innocent and has nothing to do with the situation. I just can't bear the thought of raising a child with someone who cheated on me..


Which edmwer is this?


since he have evidnece better get out

wait tio pwn by aware
 :frown:
Title: Re: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: BuiBuiForeverAlone on Sep 19, 2024, 07:12 PM
Quote from: jim889 on Sep 19, 2024, 06:56 PMsince he have evidnece better get out

wait tio pwn by aware
 :frown:

If the baby is not his...
He could play the long game and marry his "daughter" in the future if the relationship is good. If it's a boy then better cut loss asap.
Title: Re: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: jim889 on Sep 19, 2024, 07:22 PM
Quote from: Banned User on Sep 19, 2024, 07:12 PMIf the baby is not his...
He could play the long game and marry his "daughter" in the future if the relationship is good. If it's a boy then better cut loss asap.

wah lao eh.. dun la..  :frown:
Title: Re: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: Tuna seng on Sep 19, 2024, 07:30 PM
Quote from: Philipkee on Sep 19, 2024, 06:31 PMHeard before NO NEED but IF you never do DNA test and when child is born and then you put your name as the father, then you must


Lol wtf
Title: Re: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: Kok loeng on Sep 19, 2024, 07:39 PM
Question should be

Can he tahan not knowing later the wife still steal eating with me arnot.
Title: Re: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: Chao seng on Sep 19, 2024, 08:07 PM
Quote from: Philipkee on Sep 19, 2024, 06:33 PMCan I be Forced to Maintain a Child Even Though I am not the Parent?
I'm not a parent. Can the court still force me to pay for a child's maintenance?

Yes. The court may make you liable for the maintenance of someone else's child if the child has been accepted as a member of your family, and if the father or mother of the child fails to maintain him/her.

How do I know if I accepted a child as a member of my family?

The most obvious way that a non-parent accepts a child is through an express declaration. Besides this, s 70 of the Women's Charter focuses on the quality of the relationship between the non-parent and the child to decide.

Strong indicators which previous cases have showed include changing the child's surname to that of yours, encouraging the child to address you as "dad" or "mom", including the child in family outings.

What if I thought the child was mine, but later found out he/she wasn't?

The court may still find that you have accepted the child, as a member of your family, even if you assumed parental responsibility on the basis of facts that later turned out to be false.

However, it is possible that the court will not find acceptance in exceptional situations involving fraudulent conduct.

https://www.gjclaw.com.sg/articles/can-forced-maintain-child-even-though-not-parent/


He should never accept then if DNA test proves he is not the biological father.


CheerS!!!😉
Title: Re: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: Chao seng on Sep 19, 2024, 08:13 PM
Quote from: Banned User on Sep 19, 2024, 07:12 PMIf the baby is not his...
He could play the long game and marry his "daughter" in the future if the relationship is good. If it's a boy then better cut loss asap.

(https://i.postimg.cc/sgmvnwWz/OIG.TKl7NrHj_e0fIYN.jpg)


CheerS!!!😉
Title: Re: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: Philipkee on Sep 19, 2024, 08:26 PM
Quote from: GhostZM on Sep 19, 2024, 08:07 PMHe should never accept then if DNA test proves he is not the biological father.


CheerS!!!😉

But if he never do DNA test?  Cos DNA test is proof that he doesn't  trust the wife.  Which would destroy the marriage liao
Title: Re: [Reddit SG] should i continue with marriage after infidelity?
Post by: Chao seng on Sep 19, 2024, 08:30 PM
Quote from: Philipkee on Sep 19, 2024, 08:26 PMBut if he never do DNA test?  Cos DNA test is proof that he doesn't  trust the wife.  Which would destroy the marriage liao

Well, from the story, he has already found out his wife's affair..all the trust is down the drain liao


CheerS!!!😉
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