Chanced upon a random article today ... bbfa irrelevant can skip
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I May Have Witnessed the Beginning of an Affair—Joshua Roger's
The other day, I was flying out of Memphis when an attractive-looking man and woman behind me struck up a conversation that I couldn't help but hear. At first, they talked about where they were from, their work, and politics. But then things got more personal.
They both started talking about their marriages, her desire for children, and the way she and her husband were struggling with conception. That's a tender topic as it is, but something about the man's willingness to ask probing questions made me feel uneasy.
I was relieved when the flight was nearing the end and the man changed the subject and asked, "So can you recommend any good restaurants in Memphis? I have to come here for work occasionally, and I'm always looking for good places to eat."
The woman started naming off restaurants, and after she had given her recommendations, he said, "Those sound like great options. You should join me for lunch sometime."
That seemed awfully forward to me. They had only talked for a couple of hours, so I felt for sure she would come up with an excuse to beg off. Instead, she immediately agreed to meet and gave him her contact information.
"I'll be in touch," he said as they bid goodbye.
I couldn't help but wonder if I had just witnessed the beginning of an affair. Maybe so, maybe not; but I do believe I witnessed two married people put themselves in a position to have one. There were three key elements that increased the chances:
1. They were isolated. These two were 30,000 feet in the air, far away from their spouses and friends who might ask, "Why in the world are you exchanging contact information with someone of the opposite sex and planning a lunch date?" One of the easiest ways to set ourselves up for falling into any kind of sexual sin is to isolate ourselves from the people who will be affected by our choices.
2. They lowered their guards. This woman was probably in a world of hurt over the anguish that comes with infertility. Suddenly, she's sitting next to an attractive guy who's curious, who appears to care, and it understandably felt appealing to engage in self-disclosure. The problem is that in doing so, she overlooked the fact that you don't need physical contact to have an intimate moment with someone else.
3. They made plans to spend time together. The pair made a plan to spend time alone, and they had no purpose for doing so other than getting to know each other better. Spending time with someone of the opposite sex puts us in a position to get our emotional or physical needs met by someone other than our spouses.
Again, I'm not saying this couple had an affair. All I know is, over the course of just two hours, they made themselves more vulnerable to it. And as married couples, we've got to be more vigilant than that. We've got to "[c]atch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love" Song of Solomon 2:15 (NLT).
This piece appeared at Fox News Opinion. If you'd like an email with a weekly recap of what I've written, click here. You can also keep up with my latest articles or comment on Facebook or Twitter.
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Temptation is everywhere if one allows it .. it will fester
What are your thoughts?
Ts, you bbfa or married?
Also, these things are common. First time you know of affairs/flings whatnot from an article? You duno of any real life cases in your circle?
Sounds sour grapes. Written by which bbfa?
It could be the start of an affair. Or they would never see each other again.
But more importantly, during my distant business-travelling days, I'd never got such encounters, i.e. even having an opposite sex sitting beside me, let alone striking out a conversation. I do recall on a flight back from HK on a rainy Saturday morning, one big-size guy from S.Asia (cannot be named in EDMW) trying to "搭訕" me throughout the journey. :(
Quote from: peaceheart on Mar 10, 2024, 03:36 PMTs, you bbfa or married?
Also, these things are common. First time you know of affairs/flings whatnot from an article? You duno of any real life cases in your circle?
Hi peace
Still bbfa as ever
Ppl around me nv tell me how their 3rd parties or affairs started .. they usu just say the ending "we r separating " or "we divorcing" .. just telling outcome of such prolonged effects only
Some will say it's two handed clap .. rest of population is alws saying it's the other party all wrong that s why they hv to part ..
Quote from: Nevereatrice on Mar 10, 2024, 03:38 PMSounds sour grapes. Written by which bbfa?
Author Joshua someone .. not a bbfa unlike us
Quote from: bigrooster on Mar 10, 2024, 03:43 PMIt could be the start of an affair. Or they would never see each other again.
But more importantly, during my distant business-travelling days, I'd never got such encounters, i.e. even having an opposite sex sitting beside me, let alone striking out a conversation. I do recall on a flight back from HK on a rainy Saturday morning, one big-size guy from S.Asia (cannot be named in EDMW) trying to "搭訕" me throughout the journey. :(
U so Heng lor ... ppl who r free or bored or got time to care (usu Tiong land ppl or Indian ppl or msia ppl in sg heartland ) tends to get chatty or chatty invite to those fa... sometimes if I want ppl to chatty to me I might go sim lim sq the ppl see u scuttle here n there at level 2 -4 ish will ask u what u want to find , why u keep making rounds ... or try those boring lkk estates on mid afternoon .. they will also try ask u if u lost even while u Tk a walk abt
Quote from: bigrooster on Mar 10, 2024, 03:43 PMIt could be the start of an affair. Or they would never see each other again.
But more importantly, during my distant business-travelling days, I'd never got such encounters, i.e. even having an opposite sex sitting beside me, let alone striking out a conversation. I do recall on a flight back from HK on a rainy Saturday morning, one big-size guy from S.Asia (cannot be named in EDMW) trying to "搭訕" me throughout the journey. :(
Bigrooster ish rcp 😱
These chao ah neh always try their luck on Chinese girls nbcb
Quote from: Nevereatrice on Mar 10, 2024, 03:59 PMThese chao ah neh always try their luck on Chinese girls nbcb
No la where got
Quote from: Nevereatrice on Mar 10, 2024, 03:57 PMBigrooster ish rcp 😱
The fact is, bigrooster is got kkj one.
They is 男女通吃 one. So next time landed in confined space with them better be careful ...
Quote from: bigrooster on Mar 10, 2024, 04:43 PMThe fact is, bigrooster is got kkj one.
They is 男女通吃 one. So next time landed in confined space with them better be careful ...
Wtf u mean ceca ghey hit on u this is like rollercoaster...
Quote from: Nevereatrice on Mar 10, 2024, 03:59 PMThese chao ah neh always try their luck on Chinese girls nbcb
For them is got hole can liao
I always put my lampaghini usb drive whr its visible when i fly economy class
Quote from: peaceheart on Mar 10, 2024, 05:17 PMFor them is got hole can liao
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Quote from: EncourageSome1 on Mar 10, 2024, 03:16 PMChanced upon a random article today ... bbfa irrelevant can skip
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I May Have Witnessed the Beginning of an Affair—Joshua Roger's
The other day, I was flying out of Memphis when an attractive-looking man and woman behind me struck up a conversation that I couldn't help but hear. At first, they talked about where they were from, their work, and politics. But then things got more personal.
They both started talking about their marriages, her desire for children, and the way she and her husband were struggling with conception. That's a tender topic as it is, but something about the man's willingness to ask probing questions made me feel uneasy.
I was relieved when the flight was nearing the end and the man changed the subject and asked, "So can you recommend any good restaurants in Memphis? I have to come here for work occasionally, and I'm always looking for good places to eat."
The woman started naming off restaurants, and after she had given her recommendations, he said, "Those sound like great options. You should join me for lunch sometime."
That seemed awfully forward to me. They had only talked for a couple of hours, so I felt for sure she would come up with an excuse to beg off. Instead, she immediately agreed to meet and gave him her contact information.
"I'll be in touch," he said as they bid goodbye.
I couldn't help but wonder if I had just witnessed the beginning of an affair. Maybe so, maybe not; but I do believe I witnessed two married people put themselves in a position to have one. There were three key elements that increased the chances:
1. They were isolated. These two were 30,000 feet in the air, far away from their spouses and friends who might ask, "Why in the world are you exchanging contact information with someone of the opposite sex and planning a lunch date?" One of the easiest ways to set ourselves up for falling into any kind of sexual sin is to isolate ourselves from the people who will be affected by our choices.
2. They lowered their guards. This woman was probably in a world of hurt over the anguish that comes with infertility. Suddenly, she's sitting next to an attractive guy who's curious, who appears to care, and it understandably felt appealing to engage in self-disclosure. The problem is that in doing so, she overlooked the fact that you don't need physical contact to have an intimate moment with someone else.
3. They made plans to spend time together. The pair made a plan to spend time alone, and they had no purpose for doing so other than getting to know each other better. Spending time with someone of the opposite sex puts us in a position to get our emotional or physical needs met by someone other than our spouses.
Again, I'm not saying this couple had an affair. All I know is, over the course of just two hours, they made themselves more vulnerable to it. And as married couples, we've got to be more vigilant than that. We've got to "[c]atch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love" Song of Solomon 2:15 (NLT).
This piece appeared at Fox News Opinion. If you'd like an email with a weekly recap of what I've written, click here. You can also keep up with my latest articles or comment on Facebook or Twitter.
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Temptation is everywhere if one allows it .. it will fester
What are your thoughts?
it is actually a lot more common than you think. even your seemingly goody two shoes friends might be having an affair.
in singapore, men get exposed to KTVs, massage parlours and prostitution during NS. Some continue to do it even after marriage, some will go to dating apps.
I suspect that 3 or 4 out of 10 people have cheated in some ways in their marriage. Be it even very ocassionally going to ktv, massage parlours or geylang.
Quote from: Keeptrucking on Mar 10, 2024, 08:36 PMit is actually a lot more common than you think. even your seemingly goody two shoes friends might be having an affair.
in singapore, men get exposed to KTVs, massage parlours and prostitution during NS. Some continue to do it even after marriage, some will go to dating apps.
I suspect that 3 or 4 out of 10 people have cheated in some ways in their marriage. Be it even very ocassionally going to ktv, massage parlours or geylang.
I have only 3-10 friends whom
I know well enuf whether they hv affairs or not .. those ppl I m sure they don't. But has any of them ever contemplated breaking up w their sig other .. I m sure half of them have contemplated
Rest of 99 ppl around me they hv affairs or not I don't hv any speculation... I guess what s the infidelity rate for sg is generally representative of those rest of humans around me ..
Yea I hv heard of those stuff that happens in ns ...
Hmm my hunch abt the so called goody two shoes ppl whom I know .. their main difference with other non goody shoes are their perception and awareness of what constitutes infidelity and what they perceive as decent & whether or not they tk action to live right before their spouse and before God
Quote from: Keeptrucking on Mar 10, 2024, 08:36 PMit is actually a lot more common than you think. even your seemingly goody two shoes friends might be having an affair.
in singapore, men get exposed to KTVs, massage parlours and prostitution during NS. Some continue to do it even after marriage, some will go to dating apps.
I suspect that 3 or 4 out of 10 people have cheated in some ways in their marriage. Be it even very ocassionally going to ktv, massage parlours or geylang.
I'm half guilty of that. Was attached but still go out with younger female colic haha. Physically nothing happened thou but kind of know she's into me and she was quite touchy
I believe girls also same. They can be attached but still "cheat" on their other half. I'm not condoning such things but it's common, such things happen
Quote from: EncourageSome1 on Mar 10, 2024, 08:56 PMI have only 3-10 friends whom
I know well enuf whether they hv affairs or not .. those ppl I m sure they don't. But has any of them ever contemplated breaking up w their sig other .. I m sure half of them have contemplated
Rest of 99 ppl around me they hv affairs or not I don't hv any speculation... I guess what s the infidelity rate for sg is generally representative of those rest of humans around me ..
Yea I hv heard of those stuff that happens in ns ...
Hmm my hunch abt the so called goody two shoes ppl whom I know .. their main difference with other non goody shoes are their perception and awareness of what constitutes infidelity and what they perceive as decent & whether or not they tk action to live right before their spouse and before God
Nobody will go ard and admit or spread such things lah but it's common
And normally it's the goody two shoes who will cheat
社会上没有一个比学校更好的女孩子，但社会上都是比学校更好的男人！！！！ 我们分手吧！！！！！
Quote from: Nevereatrice on Mar 10, 2024, 11:04 PM社会上没有一个比学校更好的女孩子，但社会上都是比学校更好的男人！！！！
What's the meaning of this ? How does it came about
Today lkk go for evening exercise.. saw two foreginer men cycling back.
Nv took additional notice of them . But when lkk about to walk back lkk found they both stopped to help a 13-15 yo boy with his bicycle 🚲 which has dropped bike chains .. that was really kind and sweet and they didn't have to , but they chose to. They wore bright red shirt and purple shirt and red shirt man got curly hair . Lkk want to clap for them but I think they ll chua tiok so lkk just smile n faster go away .
One local guy nv help but stood there observing them .. I think he like me ... thinking of want to help but didn't know how so just stop to watch n learn by e way