Do you believe it?
for example, you are worried about a promotion at work.
You cannot sleep. Think of five years.
In five years, if you get promoted your worry is irrelevant. You don't get promoted you also can't be bother liao cos either change job or heck care.
Same for other stuff that you worry about.
yes, for me it is about petty fights and arguments.
some people need to chill the fuck out.
life is too short to fight or be unhappy all the time.
Quote from: Keeptrucking on May 29, 2024, 04:52 PMyes, for me it is about petty fights and arguments.
some people need to chill the fuck out.
life is too short to fight or be unhappy all the time.
Yeah, I'll punch a bully in his face if he ever bullies me and tells me that life is too short thereafter.
Yes.
Doesnt matter in 5 or 10 years as long as u not the owner of the company.
Like last time I do budget planning and business forecasting target 1/2/5/10 years biz plan for the company presentation for my boss approvals.
Signed off liao. Tell me milestone hit I get reward promotion for sure.
Knn i listen to his lies, sibeh motivated liao make me work like dog, tell me jump I don't question why must jump but ask him want jump how high instead.
5 years came, I got the promotion and raise but not the position that I wanted. Instead the position was external aneh mba hire. Sibeh dulanz went to confront the boss, then he tell me aneh will be my scapegoat if things don't materialize, work hard for me hit the 10 year milestone, I sure give you that position I promise u.
Knn i fall for his bs yet again.
This time round I work just as hard as the 1st time.
Nabeh 10 year milestone liao all target for the business achieved and exceeded target.
NBCb tell me he giving way to his son to take over the company since 1 year ago, so the final decision will be his son to make on whether I get to that position I so coveted in the beginning.
Lo and behold, son go and get another aneh mba yet again and put him in that position.
So i told myself
None of this bs liao. I quit.
Told off the father and son, quit on the spot, old man tell me do another 5 year plan for his son. Promise again the same bs to me.
I tell him it doesn't matter anymore liao.
1 2 5 10 15 20 years. Yr cheque cannot cash to me is just a pok check. U ownself go get that aneh do the 5 10 business plan for u la.
Middle finger him.
Now i 5 years jobless liao, but i still happy like toot.
At my age 50s now already see broken liao. Enjoying life as it comes daily. Tmrw cannot wake up how?
No need plan so much le that's my current mindset.
Quote from: Philipkee on May 29, 2024, 04:41 PMDo you believe it?
for example, you are worried about a promotion at work.
You cannot sleep. Think of five years.
In five years, if you get promoted your worry is irrelevant. You don't get promoted you also can't be bother liao cos either change job or heck care.
Same for other stuff that you worry about.
how many 5 yrs do u have
5 years is too long, anything can happen
Quote from: Shiori on May 29, 2024, 10:11 PM5 years is too long, anything can happen
What I mean is that within the 5 years, so many things will happen that what you worry so much about today won't matter in 5 years. So why worry so much today when it will probably be irrelevant within 5 years?
Its more abt reframing thoughts
If u say its not going to matter in 3 or 5 yrs, in contrary it does
Per ur e.g.
If u promoted things will change
If u dont, things also changed from current situation
Shdnt it be live a day at a time
Quote from: bsg on May 29, 2024, 09:19 PMYes.
Doesnt matter in 5 or 10 years as long as u not the owner of the company.
Like last time I do budget planning and business forecasting target 1/2/5/10 years biz plan for the company presentation for my boss approvals.
Signed off liao. Tell me milestone hit I get reward promotion for sure.
Knn i listen to his lies, sibeh motivated liao make me work like dog, tell me jump I don't question why must jump but ask him want jump how high instead.
5 years came, I got the promotion and raise but not the position that I wanted. Instead the position was external aneh mba hire. Sibeh dulanz went to confront the boss, then he tell me aneh will be my scapegoat if things don't materialize, work hard for me hit the 10 year milestone, I sure give you that position I promise u.
Knn i fall for his bs yet again.
This time round I work just as hard as the 1st time.
Nabeh 10 year milestone liao all target for the business achieved and exceeded target.
NBCb tell me he giving way to his son to take over the company since 1 year ago, so the final decision will be his son to make on whether I get to that position I so coveted in the beginning.
Lo and behold, son go and get another aneh mba yet again and put him in that position.
So i told myself
None of this bs liao. I quit.
Told off the father and son, quit on the spot, old man tell me do another 5 year plan for his son. Promise again the same bs to me.
I tell him it doesn't matter anymore liao.
1 2 5 10 15 20 years. Yr cheque cannot cash to me is just a pok check. U ownself go get that aneh do the 5 10 business plan for u la.
Middle finger him.
Now i 5 years jobless liao, but i still happy like toot.
At my age 50s now already see broken liao. Enjoying life as it comes daily. Tmrw cannot wake up how?
No need plan so much le that's my current mindset.
Bro initially although I a bit doubt u cos u copy other ppl nickname, but nao I salute u, fellow jobless person here :s12:
Yes I hardly plan 5 years down the road le.
Walk one day see one day.
Quote from: default on May 29, 2024, 11:57 PMIts more abt reframing thoughts
If u say its not going to matter in 3 or 5 yrs, in contrary it does
Per ur e.g.
If u promoted things will change
If u dont, things also changed from current situation
Shdnt it be live a day at a time
I dunno about u or others, I just saying my own perspective.
Example For me i worked for 3 boss for the last 30 years.
My 1st job I work just work, never think 1 year 2 year or 5 year end up
I worked 10 years for the 1st boss
Then i kana jio by 2nd boss to join his new setup by then I in my 30s riao.
So I again winged it without giving too much thought, worst case if cannot work out then find another job lo. Also same as 1st job work only never think 1 2 5 10 year etc all these crap, end up another 10 years passing.
Then my 3rd boss jio me cos know during 2nd boss working tenure. Without hesitation I went over cos bigger paycheck more headcount, but this was also where I damn dulan and quit on my own.
So essentially I never think so far ahead in my life, just wing it throughout.
Would things situation have been different if I planned? I dunno also never really given it much thought.
My work life was work eat chiong lim gan sleep through and through.
Gf also got change many many, wife also not i want one but circumstances call for it, even when married I still got gf outside never planned it just happened like that.
Even my marriage kids also never planned one just come and then just went as well. Divorce also like that come and go. Did not plan for it.
Life too short for regrets and looking back with hindsight.
Just like every mdy thu wed sat sun night after 7pm why I never buy that winning set of numbers.
If plans and 早知道 I probably already billionaire riaos.
Even til now I still don't plan for tmrw go where and eat what, find who to gan, tomorrow can wake up 1st then decide.
Our age can wake up already damn powerful riaos.
Quote from: luckyapple on May 30, 2024, 01:09 AMBro initially although I a bit doubt u cos u copy other ppl nickname, but nao I salute u, fellow jobless person here :s12:
I copy whose nick?
I tell u all also wont believe.
I no insurance one. My entire life never buy before.
So i think I classic example of no planning for tmrw.
Medisave don't say la. If got choice I also don't want.
Quote from: bsg on May 30, 2024, 02:47 AMI tell u all also wont believe.
I no insurance one. My entire life never buy before.
So i think I classic example of no planning for tmrw.
Medisave don't say la. If got choice I also don't want.
wah sart leh you bro. your savings very gao?
my agent was just asking me to plonk down about $400 a month for some cancer and total disease coverage.
Quote from: Philipkee on May 29, 2024, 04:41 PMDo you believe it?
for example, you are worried about a promotion at work.
You cannot sleep. Think of five years.
In five years, if you get promoted your worry is irrelevant. You don't get promoted you also can't be bother liao cos either change job or heck care.
Same for other stuff that you worry about.
soon ww3 cum, nuclear cum in chibaboom.. all turn into ash.
:frown:
Quote from: Keeptrucking on May 30, 2024, 10:51 AMwah sart leh you bro. your savings very gao?
my agent was just asking me to plonk down about $400 a month for some cancer and total disease coverage.
No ah. Not satki what. Satki is those buy aaa ward insurance.
Working full time then got agong cover medical insurance mah. I don't see the need to buy extra insurance to stay aaa ward in private hospital if need just go whatever agong insurance cover.
Now older liao no working no insurance cover lo, but then even if want buy also premium gao gao into the endless pit of no returns.
So just tahan go polyclinic see doctor if need go hospital get polyclinic referral, surgery if need stay hospital c ward lor. I stayed c ward for my appendix removal also. To me just stay for recovery fuck off when ok liao, pointless to stay aaa ward. The money I save go use elsewhere more happy.
Saving not gao but think if suddenly kana 1 major terminal illness I just don't go for treatment wait die lo or ownself go die 1st.
I find no point in working so hard let the doctor insurance peoples earn.
Quote from: Keeptrucking on May 30, 2024, 10:51 AMwah sart leh you bro. your savings very gao?
my agent was just asking me to plonk down about $400 a month for some cancer and total disease coverage.
Is it endowment that comes with some savings plan?
Quote from: luckyapple on May 30, 2024, 04:40 PMIs it endowment that comes with some savings plan?
no, no savings plan. pure coverage but the coverage is high. of course becuase you have to pay so much. once payment stops coverage stops.
Quote from: Keeptrucking on May 29, 2024, 04:52 PMyes, for me it is about petty fights and arguments.
some people need to chill the fuck out.
life is too short to fight or be unhappy all the time.
As we grow older, we realise that more and more fights and arguments are actually petty.
On the deathbed, even that multimillion deal you lost that got a bollocking and a sacking is petty
I think quite agree. But then again a lot things are butterfly effect. For B to happen, A must happen. So a lot things looking at it individually may not matter but looking at a whole it might matter caz it will form others?
Quote from: IAC on May 30, 2024, 06:36 PMI think quite agree. But then again a lot things are butterfly effect. For B to happen, A must happen. So a lot things looking at it individually may not matter but looking at a whole it might matter caz it will form others?
U just watched Ashton kutcher show ijit
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KObkqmN2f_M&ab_channel=%E5%BF%83%E6%99%BA%E6%89%8B%E5%B8%B3
This video is very much like what u are saying
Watch the vid if u can, very interesting
Quote from: Philipkee on May 29, 2024, 11:15 PMWhat I mean is that within the 5 years, so many things will happen that what you worry so much about today won't matter in 5 years. So why worry so much today when it will probably be irrelevant within 5 years?
This happens esp for children Eg worrying can't score above xxx marks in psle or below x grade in o levels
But when u go univ it s impt
When you go work it s impt to 20% when ur first job
At job 3 its 5% impt
At job 6 nobody nor yrself even cares yr psle what grade
Then ur statement v true
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If another case
Now I want to buy a ppty in sg and prices r v high now to me
Then I will need to plan on e basis do I want this hse when after I moved say if I migrate to msia or Thailand or oz
Do I hv $ to buy n manoeuvre my life excluding the $$ tucked away by the house ?
Decision is now but beyond 5 yr where I ll be it ll be material